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1 | divorce is not always a sin. | 1 Cor 7:15 | hobbzilla | 82956 | ||
Hank, I appreciate your viewpoints and far superior knowledge and wisdom of the truth. By your statement of 44 years of marriage, you are more wise than the man of your youth, which I certainly am. I am trying to listen to God during my own rainstorm. I am a believer in Christ and my testimony involves my own parents divorce due to an adulterous affair. My wife also is from a broken home and is a self proclaimed believer. Knowing what I have only witnessed and heard from her lips about her past, I would have a hard time convincing anyone (or me for that matter) that she is a true beliver. I firmly believe that our marriage was not created in heaven but instead based on our fleshly desires and have repented and accepted God's forgiveness. I have however, struggled with the question: Is it ever God's will for a couple who is married to be divorced? I believe that God knows the result of this situation before it even began. And I feel that God has allowed my wife to leave me in order that I am called back to him. Which brings up all sorts of spritual questions to light. I however am searching for the truth from this at a different viewpoint than you. We will be married 4 years this June. She no longer feels happy in this marriage or in love with me and left 4 months ago and moved in with her parents. I have adimitly stood firm on not be filing for divorce. She has shown no desire to reconcile or seek counsel. Nor has she confirmed filing divorce proceedings but has not ruled them out. She has however affirmed my belief that she has a specific 'someone' she thinks about 'what life would be like...' I obviously expressed my disapproval and urged her not to entertain those thoughts.. because I too have fallen victim to those fleshly desires during these past 4 months and quickly saw them for what they were. I have fasted and prayed and called upon the counsel of others. Although I have gone to her in private and a pastor at church was witness to her deliberate biblical disobidence when he told her that she needed to work on this marriage and return home.. I have not formaly asked the church nor know of anything that would fulfill the biblical scenario of Matthew 18. I felt it just for her to come to the decision of whether or not to work on the marriage or file for divorce on her own.. then if she chose to file for divorce then go to the church. If she still didn't listen to the church and filed for divorce anyway.. I would feel free from this marriage on the basis of 1 Cor 7:15. But all of this is premature as I am love her AND am in love with her and desperately want her to turn to God and repent and reconcile this marriage. I feel like I have rambled enough now.. and await your (or anyone elses) thoughts on this matter. |
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2 | divorce is not always a sin. | 1 Cor 7:15 | Hank | 82965 | ||
Your post arrests my attention and I am frankly glad that you vented your thoughts because I have a strong hunch you needed to do so; and I assure you that your words have fallen upon sympathetic ears as far as I'm concerned. Yet I think it unwise of me to deviate from the general theme of this forum, which is Bible study, by presuming to act as a marriage counselor, a role from which I exempt myself for lack of proper credentials. To suggest a course of action to you beyond a most general one would be to render you a distinct disservice. From my long years of experience in my own marriage, I have formed the firm belief that a good marriage is based on a number of things, not the least of which is a commonality of trust -- trust in God and in one another. Trust in one another is vital and takes time to build. A breach of trust is a most serious matter and takes longer still to rebuild and requires an enormous quantity of patience and self-control. Walk circumspectly in your personal life, seek God's counsel in frequent prayer, and avail yourself of whatever help is at hand from Christian counselors, your pastor, and your trusted Christian friends. Beyond that, rest in faith that all things will work together for good in your life. [See Romans 8:28]. You have my best wishes for a happy solution to your situation and most of all, you have my prayers. --Hank | ||||||