Bible Question:
Matt 5:27-28 Mark 10:10-12 In these verses it specifically addresses the mans right to divorce a woman under the grounds of adultery, but it does not specifically say a woman can divorce her husband. Is a woman biblically allowed the right to divorce a man under these grounds (porn as adultery) or does she have to seperate and wait for her husband to divorce her? |
Bible Answer: Hello Bandaid, I am no pro, but have been in places that has given me a modicum of experience on this subject. I have been to counseling, and others have come to me for counseling. Now, to look to the Bible as the inspired Word of God for wisdom, turn to the very first negative thing spoken of in the created world. After God reflected upon all He made, and saw that all was good, He said that it was not good for man to be alone And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Gen 2:18) Are you looking for a biblical justification to initiate divorce proceedings? I am afraid that what you are looking for is a band-aid solution to a much deeper problem. You may even be looking for an answer in the Bible to suit your worldly desires but I suspect you may not be successful. You use Scripture verses to illustrate your point, but Mar 10:10-12 deals with adultery, giving no permission for a man to initiate a decree of divorce. 10.)In the house the disciples [began] questioning Him about this again. 11.) And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; 12.)and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery." Mat 5:27-28 deals with adultery, giving no permission for a man to initiate a decree of divorce. 27.)"You have heard that it was said, 'YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY'; 28.) but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. This is key, The 'he' spoken of is committing adultery 'in his heart' Now, that is where the problem lies, it is an issue of the heart. In marriage, the twain are to become one. If this does not happen, it must be worked out with prayer through biblical counseling, and not by placing judgement on the other party. Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam [is] in thine own eye? (Mat 7:4) While it is quite true that adultery is a horrible sin, yet, in my eyes, Jesus has spoken more harshly about the sin of judging others. Take into account the words of Jesus to the woman at the well. Did He condemn her? No, He sent her home to proclaim His message. Also, the woman caught in the act of adultery. Did He condemn her? No, He said for the one who is without sin to cast the first stone. Please do not misunderstand me. I am not condoning adultery, or even trying to minimize this awful sin or the ugly consequences thereof. However the sin of Pride, of where non-righteous judgements originate, is a whole new thread -yet I maintain that it is most offensive to God. So, when you look at the sin of judging others (and their sins), it is so much more grievious according to amounts of Scripture that condemns those who feel righteous enough to do so. The main thing to remember is, it is all about Jesus. Not our own comfort. If you were to remember this, you will find your trials easier to bear with the strength that He supplies you. keliy |