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1 | Can a woman divorce man: Ongoing porn? | Matthew | keliy | 212679 | ||
Sister, First, let me post my regrets that it took so long to get to the crux of the problem. Yet I am thankful we are here. I do not entirely agree with the censorship guidelines of this forum, whatever they are. Because now there are many that will miss the fruit that our posts have born. Sobeit. it is all God's will, amen? The end of your last post said, which will overcome? That is easy to answer. It is the one that we choose to feed. Will we choose to feed (by spending time and energy on) the side that exhibits the aroma of Christ, or the one that demands our immediate attention -which is our own ambitions? One side is light and one is darkness. One leads to life and the other leads to death. I do not want to preach to the choir but you understand that you are not responsible for your husbands actions. Only how you react to those actions. Being a man of 52 years, I know the struggles that he faces. It is the same as the fruit in the garden of Eden that spelled the downfall of our entire human race. This is the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes, (obvious) and (less obvious) is the pride of life, which allows the male to "conquer" the harlot in his own mind. This is why he is in denial. The Bible says the darkness hides from the light for fear of being exposed. Just as Adam and Eve hid when they heard God approach. May I suggest that you steer him to a website that deals with porn addiction on an anonymous basis? Just a suggestion, I do not have one for you but I have seen them in the past. just Google some key words. Your husband needs to be willing to let the light shine in. And stop hiding in darkness. But it is like a cancer that needs to be cut out with a knife. The initial pain is scary. By steering him to the resources that are needed, he can secretly work out his problem and maybe even be held accountable by an online pal. This is where our prayers will be most beneficial. And in return, with the Spirit's help, you may rescue him from the clutches of the enemy and he will love you all the more for it without having to know anything.. I will monitor this thread for a few days, or as long as you need some help from a christian brother. In His service and yours, keliy |
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2 | Can a woman divorce man: Ongoing porn? | Matthew | bandaid | 212683 | ||
Believe me I have tried everything. He has at his disposal Christian counselors that specifically deal with "Sexual Brokeness" or awesome websites or mens support groups. He refuses to get invloved in any of those as he feels he can do it on his own. The "on his own" has lasted a good 4 years now since my discovery with no change whatsoever. Only worse. My feeling is that other areas such as pride, denial, forgiveness and shame need to be addressed first. I cannot do any of that for him, and I and my children are no longer in his home. I can only share with him from time to time, but his feelings are like eggshells. It is best for me to stay away as much as possible. All I can give is prayer about the areas I see he is struggling in. How much prayer is enough? God give me wisdom in what I do say. In what i ask for. Give me strength to face the reality of this situation wherever that leads. I love my husband enough to want him free even if it means without me. And at this point I don't even know who he really is anymore. He does seem to be possesed at times and it is scary to see such a talented man who knows compassion so far from who he was and now is becoming something I don't know. Can prayer and fasting set him free? I hope so. I don't care what anyone else thinks about this, if an agape type of love for someone is the reason behind fasting and praying I don't think there is any other better use for faith in it. |
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3 | Can a woman divorce man: Ongoing porn? | Matthew | keliy | 212686 | ||
Bandaid, Yes, I believe you have tried nearly everything. And I believe that you love your husband beyond his shortcomings. You asked, "Can prayer and fasting set him free?" Well, I have proof that it can. Yesterday, you blamed me for misunderstanding, and threatened to report me for harrassment. I forgave you instantaneously and I offered to pray and fast for your situation. You disagreed with my post and said you would not read any more from me. I completely understand, because there are some on the forum that I do not respond to even when they are being nice. Anyway, I did fast, today and the Spirit has turned our relationship into one that is mutually accepting. This is not because I fasted. I believe that the Holy Spirit saw that I cared enough to actually suffer (mildly) for your cause, and He brought to my heart and my mind what I was then able to put into my post. Then there was a 180 bat-turn for our situation. God is capable, and He truly wants to do it again. But what I said about Him waiting, and doing things on His time still stands. It is not the fasting that effects the change, -but you know that. I had an idea tonight, with help from the Lord. Can you send an anonymous card in the mail? You can maybe write in it that you are trying to help, but if he does not know who its from, he can not answer to the person whether he ever even received it. (type, or write with your left hand) It might drive him to embarrasment wondering who sent it. You might include this verse: "Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eyes are good, your whole body also is full of light. But when they are bad, your body also is full of darkness. See to it, then, that the light within you is not darkness." -Jesus (Luke 11:34-35 NIV) Then you can send a card with a link to a site for porn addiction I have found a site for you, at www.porn-free.org/ (I found the above verse at the site) MAKE sure that you put the dash between the words or you will be directed to a site that actually offers free porn. This is from the site: "This site also is intended to help people discover how to live the "new life" that comes through knowing Jesus Christ and living by the power of the Holy Spirit. Many people may put their faith in Jesus, but how many people go on to live as the "new creation" that the scriptures say they can be? Jesus said, "I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly" (John 10:10). Living as a new creation is the secret to experiencing God's joy and peace in life!" They also claim to Connect spouses of sex addicts for "e-fellowship" So, I hope that you will try my suggestion, about remaining anonymous. Send the link to the site with the paragraph above to him in a card that tells him you care. Anonymously. Then send another card in a day or two with a similar message, always anonymously. Continue to fast and pray but be aware of the spiritual warfare that is sure to ramp up. The enemy does not want to lose this one! I will pray for your victory. keliy |
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