Bible Question: Thank you all for your responses. However, neither one of us were virgins when we "hooked up", this change came about after a year of "hooking up". We had plans to marry 3 years from now and she just decided to abstain totally until we married. How would your responses differ after knowing more details? Do they remain the same? |
Bible Answer: Greetings JMR! There is no change in my answer, since we now know more about the relationship with you and your girlfriend. One thing that you CAN do at this point is to renounce all of your sin and repent for falling to temptation with this girl! If you and your girlfriend both repent of your past sexual experience, then you can better prepare yourselves to experience each other more fully and acquire a new sense of "virginity" if you keep yourselves pure from this point until your wedding night. There is SO much more to a marriage relationship than just sex, my friend! You have to live with this person. I will pray that you will refrain from your passion and temptation and that the Lord will keep you both chaste until you are ready for each other. For marriage, there are many questions to ask! Have you sought pre-marital counselling from a pastor? Do you honestly see yourself living with this person for your entire lifetime? Do you know that there are many sacrifices to be made and much effort to be put into a marriage? God has directed us to be chaste for a reason! Women are so much different from men and the opposite is also true for men. My friend, the Lord has directed us to be chaste, because abstinence from sex is the "best" preparation that there is for having sex during your marriage! Please consider your actions prayerfully and take this into consideration, my friend. Your Brother in Christ, Nolan |