Bible Question: This might sound like an easy question to answer, but I'm confused. I am a single male (never been married) dating a single female (never been married). Would having sex be a sin? The Ten Commandments don't address this issue (see Exodus 20:3-17) nor is it addressed in the two commandments on which the whole Law and the Prophets depend on (see Matt 22:36-40). |
Bible Answer: JMR, I've read the thread of responses to your question regarding the issue of pre-marital sex. One of them said, in effect, that when two people come together, in the eyes of the Father, they are married. I don't believe this position can be supported by Scripture. All the other posts appear to mirror the view of Scripture. God made sex a part of His creation process and ordained marriage between a man and a woman as the only union in which He sanctions the use of it. My wife and I have been married for 42 years. The proper use of sex has given us joy, not only in enabling us to become parents to three wonderful children, but enabling us to express our love and commitment to each other. This is in accord with God's plan. On the other hand, the misuse and abuse of sex outside of the union of marriage has brought misery and remorse to countless numbers of men and women down through the ages and continues still. Believe me, the decision to wait until marriage to engage in the ultimate physical intimacy is well worth the effort of self-control, and the price one pays to remain chaste until marriage is small indeed in comparison to the heavy price so many pay as a consequence of yielding to the temptation of sex outside of marriage. It is always folly to misuse what God has given us, for in so doing we turn what He meant for our blessing into a curse. --Hank |