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NASB | Matthew 19:9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." |
AMPLIFIED 2015 | Matthew 19:9 "I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." |
Bible Question:
I've struggled with this verse as it relates to my personal situation. I'm a divorced woman who has remarried. I didn't choose to be divorced from my first husband, he initiated it. I found out later it was because he wanted to be with another woman. I have since remarried, and am wholly convinced that my current husband is the man the Lord intended me to spend my life with. My current husband was also married before; he left his first wife several years before I met him, mainly because they were incompatible. So, in light of Matt 19:9... 1. Was my divorce "acceptable" in God's eyes? This verse doesn't seem to address situations where the *man* has been unfaithful. I regard my first husband's actions as adultery, since he was guilty of lust in his heart (if not otherwise) for another woman. Does this make me "innocent"? 2. Was my current husband's divorce "acceptable" in God's eyes? I don't believe it was. 3. Are either my current husband or myself guilty of adultery, in the context of Matthew 19:9? Even if my divorce can somehow be justified, if my husband's can't, does that make either of us guilty? As I mentioned, I'm convinced that God meant for me and my current husband to be together. In retrospect I see that neither of us could have had God's blessings regarding our first marriages. This has really troubled me for some time, and even my pastors haven't been able to help me sort through this to my satisfaction. Thanks for any comments, comforting or not! |
Bible Answer: Numbers6:24-26: I like the verses you choose, it's a rather long name so I will just call you numbers, ok? Now lets go to divorce college, the calss is Legalism, Divorce 101. Lets for the sake of damnation, hell fire, and brimstone, we will call you both at fault, for the divorces. This is regardless of who was at gulty, ok? Follow me so far? Being nearly perfect a legalist, I say you and your husband have sinned. Now we know scripture says niether you can return to you ex mates. Right? In legalism 101 you both are condemmed! You are second class Christians! You will pay forever bt us better than you. Niether of you can ever teach a Sunday Class, serve as a Deacon, and other restrictions are made depending on how legal you want me to be. Now Deacon Melvin has had a few affairs, but did not get a divorce, and at the barber shop glances at the nasty magizines, just to be able to testify how bad they are, ya know! He does not look at the pictures but a quick glance. Ministry is closed to you. So you must sit back and feel like dung the rest of your life. That's it! Take it or leave! Or leave and go some where else and be quiet about your divorce. Now let me take you to Sinners who don't know what to do. College class, Grace and Mercy 101. I am a sinner saved by grace. I have planks in my eyes too. Lets just say for the time being, because there maybe others who read this who did commit adultry, ok? Lets say you and your husband did leave your mates for an affair. And your mates divorced you. Lets assume you got mattied. And so did you ex mates. You are forbidden to go back to your ex mates by scripture. Believe me I have seen it much more complecated situations than this! What should you do? Now answer me a question, ok? How does the Lord Jesis Christ forgive sin? Is there any sin that is not forgiven exactly the same way? I want to interject here and now this is not a way to commit a sin and say God will forgive me. We will reap what we sow. I may lose my friends respect, I may have to repent and go to my exmate and confess my sin and seek forgiveness. Repentance is humilating! But it is healing, as God intended it to be. Back to divorced Christians who have remarried even when it was wrong do so. 1 John 1:9, together you confess your sins to the Lord Jesus. and in many cases this includes seeking repentance and forgivneness. I knnow Jesus will cleanse us, and forgive us. With humans they may or may not. Then it is between then and God. This is the only way I know you and your husband can be absolutly sure you marriage is right as it can be. Please remember I have used the worst picture, not yours as you describe it. Gods grace, mercy and forgiveness is complete. When any other Christian Judges you, be kind, and remember you answer to Christ not them, and they will answer to Christ as well. May I offer this to you and your husband. Second marriages have a very high failure rate. The odds are way over on the side you will not make this marriage last. I would find a recommended Christian marriage counselor and have regular check ups as I call it. If you did not get good premarital counseling, with personality test and temperment tests, you need this badly. You both have some deep wounds that you may not even know of. You both came with old bagage. No Divorce is totally without some fault. We are all sinners and that gets in the way no matter who we marry. I sincerely want you marriage to work, and endure. Please give my suggestions some serious thought. If one of you wont go, then the other should, to help to be the best you can be. I pray Gods best for you both. agape, justme |