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1 | based on Mt. 5:32 may I marry a divorced | Matt 5:32 | Morant61 | 103467 | ||
Greetings Bigjim! You really need to address this issue with a local pastor. It is not really advisable to either counsel or receive counsel on an internet forum. There are too many personal factors which must be taken into consideration. Generally speaking, I know that I take the following approach as a pastor. 1) Was the divorce for legitimate reasons? Scripture allows divorce for adultry. If this were the case, I would say that you could marry her. 2) Was the divorce prior to her becoming a Christian? I don't 'count' things done before someone became a Christian. 3) Did she initiate the divorce? It is very easy to get a divorce these days. I don't hold divorce against someone who had no choice in the matter. Other than these three exceptions, I would say that marrying a divorced person is adultry. But, you really need to speak with a local pastor about such an important issue! If you don't have a local pastor, e-mail me (Morant62@hotmail.com) and I'll see if I can get you in touch with a good pastor. Your Brother in Christ, Tim Moran |
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2 | based on Mt. 5:32 may I marry a divorced | Matt 5:32 | justme | 103499 | ||
Morant61: Tim, I have a concern that some do not take in to consideration, what about Scripture that says that a unbeliever leaves a believer. Does not Scripture say the believer is free to marry only in the Lord? I have seen women abused emotionally by so called believers, and have ministers say they are to stay in this marriage. This is so wrong. In a time when divorced Christians are treated like second class Christians, I find two extremes. One that just is so accepting of divorce, and the other side calls anyone divorced an adulter. There is surely some better way to understand this in the eyes of Christ. I am under the opinion that David did it all. He murdered, lied, was not faithfull, and was an adulter. Yet it is said he was a man after Gods heart. I would love to have seen David meeting Uhra in heaven. If God can forgive David, then how can we not do the same? Scripture forbids a man or woman to go back to a person once a new marriage has taken place and ended. Is adultery an on going condition or a sin? How is it forgiven? I snot all sin forgiven the same way? Any thoughts are welcome. Blessings to you Tim. justme |
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3 | based on Mt. 5:32 may I marry a divorced | Matt 5:32 | Searcher56 | 103502 | ||
justme ... May I interject ... I am concerned about the phrase "so called believers" ... we do not know if someone is a Christian - we need to ask them. The Bible does not give an expection clause for abuse. While God did forgive David, and forgives us ... there are consequences (his son died ... and hos house was never the same, nor the kingdom (2 Sam 12ff). Romans 6:1-2 says we should sin so that grace abounds. Searcher |
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4 | based on Mt. 5:32 may I marry a divorced | Matt 5:32 | justme | 103510 | ||
Searcher56:-) Thank you for your responnse. I always appreciate hearing from you. As you statein your note number 92166 the main issue is "hardness of heart" this is Biblically based and a reason not only for divorce but all sin, in my opinion. One solution to this massive marriage failures anong Christians is that there is little help available in teh area of reconcilliation counseling. By reconcillation counseling I mean there needs to be the support and demand by Pastors and ministers that no marriage is beyond the saving grace of the Lord Jesus Christ! The only marriage that is beyond repair is one in which one mate has remarried. Then there is no longer any hope in reconcillation of the marriage. I am sure that if covenant marriage were the strong emphasis from the first marriage counseling session, we would see a drop in Christians involved in divorce. If there were pastors that were dogmatic that if neither mate has remarried then reconcillation counseling is the Biblical answer. As Christians in America, we have a high demand that marriage must make me happy and feel loved all the time. That is just mot how life happens! Do Christians today fail as David did? Yes they do. Does unfaithfullness demand divorce? Biblically no. From the human standpoint God knows that adultery is a burden that some can not rebuild trust, and reconcile the marriage. Is it possible to rebuild trust and a marriage if adultery has taken place? Yes, with God all things are possible, and does happen quite often. But Searcher, what if, a couple comes to you and admits they have the worst possible sinfull history you can think of? For instance, they were married to christians. They did have an adultress relationship, divorced their mated, and married each other. Now they come to you, and are finally convicted of their sin some years latter, and they have children. Now they ask you what should they do. What do we say? How does 1 John 1:9 applied here, or does it? This is a not such a unrealistic situation that has not happened to many pastors. Do we refuse this couple in attending our church? Do we tell them to divorce? Do we brake up a family with children? How does the church deal with these people? Many coupleslike this just keep quiet aand tell no one and live in guilt and shame, that is a fact. In the United states today many church attending Christian singlees are living together, at a higher rate than most would believe. This is by it's self a big reason for serious marriage problems and a high predictor of divorce. Searcher, where does it end? There is wide acceptance of all the things I have mentioned. The issue is not only hardness of heart, but a turning away from believing we will be held accountable for our lives, and that sin hardens the heart of mankind. Any thoughts? Blessings Searcher. justme |
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5 | based on Mt. 5:32 may I marry a divorced | Matt 5:32 | Searcher56 | 103518 | ||
justme ... It breaks God's heart when there is divorce ... He hates it (Mal 2:16). Christians (mis)use 1 John 1:9 ... thinking because they are forgiven they can divorce ... but, don't want to look at Romans 6:1-2. Couples may have a worst possible sinful history ... but, it is not an excuse for sinning just one more time. Wise Biblical counsel is needed - both need to go. Counsel needs to start before marriage ... and needs to last for a long time. We all need to rethink things ... selflessness is needed. We need to have our marraige Christ centered, open communication and a commitment (borrowed from Dr. Dobson) ... and this needs to be taught before the wedding and continued for a lifetime. We need to accept them into His church w/o reservation. We need to love them as people, but hate what they have done. There are events that happen to us and based on our triggers, we chose what to do. I'll add more tomorrow on this ... but, we begin by looking at ourselves as victims ... poor me ... so I must do soemthing. Searcher |
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