Bible Question:
First of all, I committed adultery and have since repented completely, I thank God for his forgiveness and restoration. My issue is my wife is divorcing me, and I want to reconcile and to be the Godly husband that God has commanded me to be. When I was in the sin I did not believe that God had a plan for our marriage, but through the word and good teachings at church, I know that God does have a perfect plan for marriage and not only that he has anointed me to be that Godly husband through the Agape love in me. My wife believes because of Matt 5:31-32 that God has given her the choice to stay married to me or not to. She has chosen not to because she says that because God wants for her to be a Godly and submissive wife that this would be too hard for her and then she would be in disobediance to Gods word. I would never want her to be disobediant to God and I know that God has enough grace to help her and I through the mis-trust and fear. I just do not believe that she is standing on the right scriptures in this because everything I know about Jesus is Love, Faith, Forgiveness, and restoration. She also quoted Mark 10:12 that says if a wife divorces her husband and marries another commits adultery as a allowance for a wife to divorce. I know that if the divorce does go through she will not marry again. I also believe that if we do divorce I will not marry again either. I have looked for any other posts with this same situation and can't find any. For now I stand on my confession of faith that my wife will forgive and reconcile me. In God Mark |
Bible Answer: Mark, this is not about what you want and it helps very little when you use scripture to say she will be submissive. My husband was pastor of a church with a beautiful Christian submissive wife who would have done anything for him and did. He moved in with a very imoral woman, they went to church together, she even sang, he gave out communion, IN church and out of church they committed their sin. I listened quietly to the Holy Spirit and one day he sent me divorce papers and got a quick 60 day divorce, have not seen him since,,, hey you pray but get on with your service for the king of kings. I tried to get him to have counsel from the men and other pastors but he refused and told the men he had given me ample time to be a good wife. Those who are married are said to live as though they had no spouse so that is how I live in service to Jesus, listen if a man or woman can not honor their vows to God why would marriage vows matter. Sooner or later, a dog returns to his vomit son, so please take it from a loving old woman ... get on with your life and leave her to Jesus |