Bible Question:
First of all, I committed adultery and have since repented completely, I thank God for his forgiveness and restoration. My issue is my wife is divorcing me, and I want to reconcile and to be the Godly husband that God has commanded me to be. When I was in the sin I did not believe that God had a plan for our marriage, but through the word and good teachings at church, I know that God does have a perfect plan for marriage and not only that he has anointed me to be that Godly husband through the Agape love in me. My wife believes because of Matt 5:31-32 that God has given her the choice to stay married to me or not to. She has chosen not to because she says that because God wants for her to be a Godly and submissive wife that this would be too hard for her and then she would be in disobediance to Gods word. I would never want her to be disobediant to God and I know that God has enough grace to help her and I through the mis-trust and fear. I just do not believe that she is standing on the right scriptures in this because everything I know about Jesus is Love, Faith, Forgiveness, and restoration. She also quoted Mark 10:12 that says if a wife divorces her husband and marries another commits adultery as a allowance for a wife to divorce. I know that if the divorce does go through she will not marry again. I also believe that if we do divorce I will not marry again either. I have looked for any other posts with this same situation and can't find any. For now I stand on my confession of faith that my wife will forgive and reconcile me. In God Mark |
Bible Answer: Mark, I just read your letter about your wife! I will be praying for you guys! I truly believe that even with adultry, as every other sin, we are saved by God's grace through Christ's sacrifice, and if you think about it, our marriages are supposed to be the same--we are to be a living example of grace and Christ's love to each other. So this means you and your wife can choose to take the easy road of divorce, or choose to grow in Christ's image, learning the hard lessons again, giving each other grace, actively forgiving and working at your relationship. Each time we fall away, Christ lovingly takes us back in his arms, right? Should we not do the same in our marriage? My parents managed to struggle through this same sin, and God has renewed their love for each other and their trust. HE IS FAITHFUL if we give him the chance. FAITH, unlike the doc told you, DOES INDEED move God!! Our faith is the belief that God ALREADY HAS saved and worked within us to make us anew. Read The Normal Chistian Life by Watchman Nee, this missionary gives some great insights on faith. But like the Doc told you as well, you can't manipulate or force your wife to love or stay with you. Love does not demand its own. I will be praying hard for you, brother!!! Keep on the path. :) |