Bible Question:
First of all, I committed adultery and have since repented completely, I thank God for his forgiveness and restoration. My issue is my wife is divorcing me, and I want to reconcile and to be the Godly husband that God has commanded me to be. When I was in the sin I did not believe that God had a plan for our marriage, but through the word and good teachings at church, I know that God does have a perfect plan for marriage and not only that he has anointed me to be that Godly husband through the Agape love in me. My wife believes because of Matt 5:31-32 that God has given her the choice to stay married to me or not to. She has chosen not to because she says that because God wants for her to be a Godly and submissive wife that this would be too hard for her and then she would be in disobediance to Gods word. I would never want her to be disobediant to God and I know that God has enough grace to help her and I through the mis-trust and fear. I just do not believe that she is standing on the right scriptures in this because everything I know about Jesus is Love, Faith, Forgiveness, and restoration. She also quoted Mark 10:12 that says if a wife divorces her husband and marries another commits adultery as a allowance for a wife to divorce. I know that if the divorce does go through she will not marry again. I also believe that if we do divorce I will not marry again either. I have looked for any other posts with this same situation and can't find any. For now I stand on my confession of faith that my wife will forgive and reconcile me. In God Mark |
Bible Answer: Mark, in reading your question I sense a struggle to find a way to cause your desired result to happen. Faith cannot be used that way, although many of us have tried to use it that way. Faith is our response to God's provision and to his promises. Faith doesn't move God and force can't move your wife. Therefore, it would be good to do as I Peter 5:6-7 instructs. Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. He needs to be your focus for now, instead of your wife. Your wife needs to gain back her trust in you. Forgiveness is one thing, trust is another. If she can see your focus on trusting God and being completed submitted to His provision, it will be easier for her. God be with your spirit. |