Bible Question:
My wife divorced me after a long separation. When we were together I was not a Christian. I have since become a Christian during our separation. My exwife is a Christian. She divorced me because I had committed adultery. I wanted to reconcile but she did not believe in me. My exwife will not even speak to me. I have since met a divorced Christian woman. Am I free to marry this new woman or must I remain single and hope for reconcilation with my exwife? My exwife has not remarried nor is she dating as far as I know. I have fallen in love with this new woman and would like to continue my life as a Christian man. Would my second marriage be adultery? Would it be permitted in the eyes of God? I do not believe my first marriage can be salvaged. |
Bible Answer: Have faith, Trust God, NOBODY, I mean NOBODY but the Holy Spirit can give you your answer. I am basically in the same place you are except I am believing God for restoration. I was unfaithful to my first wife with my second wife and unfaithfull to her with one of those close friends you describe. There honestly is no such thing as a close friendship between a married man and another woman. To have one is disrespectfull to the covenant we made with our wives before God. Point Blank I wish I had learned that before my second mistake. I can tell you that Love is a decision not a feeling and that God honors our faithfullness to Him and will accept our repentant heart and I can say to you with certainty; put God first then let Him work out your life. I know that it's a hard thing to do at first especially when youre lonely but He has a way of meeting your needs and changing your desires when we put Him first. I am seeing and attending church with my x-wife and I realize that trust once lost is hard to regain, but with God's help, a lot of patience and the renewing of my mind with the Word I will soon have the desire of my heart. You can too, just listen to the Spirit. |