Subject: Christian man wants to remarry |
Bible Note: Dear friend, I will add a couple of comments to what I said earlier. But it sure sounds like you simply want someone to tell you to go ahead and do what you obviously want to do, even though your heart is telling you its wrong. You said that you want to marry a divorced woman. The only ways marraige can end, where the once-married person is Biblically free to remarry is if they were married to an unbeliever who leaves (1 Cor 7), or if their spouse died (Romans 7). Did this woman's marriage end because she was a believer, her husband not, and he left her because of that? That is the only circumstance that would allow her, who was divorced, to remarry. Unless that is what happened, she is not Biblically free to remarry. Matt 5:32 but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Unless her marraige ended as described above, your marraige to her would constitute adultery. Considering the statements made in the Bible about marraige, divorce, and remarraige, I would seriously question whether "God brought this woman to you". Life is a series of tests, and this is probibly one more test. I will repeat my first question to you. Are you willing to obey God, if His will is clear to you? Please understand something about marraige. This is a life-long covenant given by God between a man and a woman. Tearing a marraige apart is tantamount to ripping your own body in half. God does not intend marraiges to break up. God intends for us to make them work. Not just until the going gets tough, then just bail out, and go get another. You have answered me as if you were the victim, yet by your own admission, the marraige broke up because of your adultery. Biblically, you are not free to remarry, and whether or not there is any possiblity of reconciliation with your exwife has nothing to do with that. When the disciples questioned Jesus about how anyone could follow these rules on marraige, Jesus responded, basically, "Hey, not everyone should be married." Am I telling you to stop living your life? Well, yes I am. I mean, you can live your own life, or you can live the life God wants you to live. Do you trust Him to know what is best for you? Can you trust Him to do what is right for you? Please seek pastoral counseling, and not just advice over the internet. Prayerfully, with Christ's love, Mark |