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1 | marriage and masturbation. | Bible general Archive 2 | isavegas@yahoo.com | 93221 | ||
I am a married christian woman who's husband is currently in basic training for the National Guard. The training lasts 8 months and we were both wondering (discussions prior to his leave and currently through letters) if masturbation while apart and thinking only of each other during the act is a sin. Corinthians 7:1-6 got us thinking and realizing sex is very important and that it should be used to please and satisfy each other. Now if the act and confessing of masturbation (while recalling previous pleasureable sexual activities between each other or fanasties involving each other) "turns on" each other especially when whispered in ears as foreplay when reunioned in the bedroom again, how does that apply? Thank you. |
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2 | marriage and masturbation. | Bible general Archive 2 | Hank | 93222 | ||
The subject of masturbation has been a popular topic of discussion on this forum, and consequently the archives contain a large volume of posts on it. You may access them by using search and entering the key word masturbation (also enter masterbation, a common misspelling that has been used on the forum). Beyond that, I hesitate to post any specific advice on your highly personal and intimate question beyond the observation that there is absolutely no stigma attached to abstinence. The reason I hestitate to venture further is that I am not qualified to give professional counsel on a matter that is of such great importance to both you and your husband. Neither is anyone else on this forum to my knowledge and belief. Nevertheless, nothwithstanding the lack of professional expertise, on a forum such as this you are likely to get a variety of conflicting advice which will only serve to exacerbate your problem, not solve it. Accordingly, if you and your husband are unable to resolve your problem satisfactorily between yourselves, why not consider getting outside help from a Christian counselor who has professional expertise in matters such as this? Extended separation of marriage partners is not an uncommon thing in our mobile world, and an experienced professional counselor has doubtlessly had occasions to deal with the very problem you and your husband now face. Your marriage bond is sacred and exceedingly precious. Please don't hesitate to protect and preserve it by whatever means that God may place at your disposal. In September my wife and I, if God wills, will celebrate the 44th anniversary of our marriage. There is no relationship on earth except our relationship with Jesus Christ that we prize more highly. May God be with you and your husband during this necessary but crucial time of being absent one from the other and bless your forthcoming reunion with joy and gladness. --Hank | ||||||
3 | marriage and masturbation. | Bible general Archive 2 | isavegas@yahoo.com | 93224 | ||
Hank, Thank you for your suggestions. You are right, I will most likely get confused online however I don't want to discuss this subject with our pastor nor my sweet and kind father in law who is also a preacher. The father in law has already answered (with much good nature embarrassment between himself, my husband, and myself) many questions of sexual nature and marriage. He made it clear anything in the bedroom that does NOT involve another person physically and mentally is acceptable as long as it pleases the other. Asking about masturbation would be crossing the line for me. My husband and I feel it is acceptable even highly exciting to do something like this but we are also christians who have recently came back to God and have a deep interest in renewing our relationship with the Holy Father and following His will. I am sorry for the uncomfortable yet reasonable question however I had no where to turn but here. Congratuations on your beautiful long marriage. May God continue to bless you and thank you for prayers for us as well. isavegas |
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4 | marriage and masturbation. | Bible general Archive 2 | Aixen7z4 | 98110 | ||
My dear sister, Hank is correct. Sex is for you and your husband. You need not be embarrassed to discuss anything with him. On the other hand, you need not discuss what you do with anyone else. If it is a problem for either of you you should see a professional. Now, if you click on as authors name and find out that he is a professional, I suggest that you note his e-mail address and write to him privately. Yes, counseling is available by e-mail and by telephone. You seem to be a happy and well-adjusted couple. You do not need to be confused, or to develop problems that do not now exist. You said you and your husband have both "recently came back to God" and really want to do his will. Just remember that God's will is in his word. Be sure you are not bringing back anything you learned "out there" that is contrary to the word of God. So far you have not mentioned any. |
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