Bible Question:
I am a married christian woman who's husband is currently in basic training for the National Guard. The training lasts 8 months and we were both wondering (discussions prior to his leave and currently through letters) if masturbation while apart and thinking only of each other during the act is a sin. Corinthians 7:1-6 got us thinking and realizing sex is very important and that it should be used to please and satisfy each other. Now if the act and confessing of masturbation (while recalling previous pleasureable sexual activities between each other or fanasties involving each other) "turns on" each other especially when whispered in ears as foreplay when reunioned in the bedroom again, how does that apply? Thank you. |
Bible Answer: The subject of masturbation has been a popular topic of discussion on this forum, and consequently the archives contain a large volume of posts on it. You may access them by using search and entering the key word masturbation (also enter masterbation, a common misspelling that has been used on the forum). Beyond that, I hesitate to post any specific advice on your highly personal and intimate question beyond the observation that there is absolutely no stigma attached to abstinence. The reason I hestitate to venture further is that I am not qualified to give professional counsel on a matter that is of such great importance to both you and your husband. Neither is anyone else on this forum to my knowledge and belief. Nevertheless, nothwithstanding the lack of professional expertise, on a forum such as this you are likely to get a variety of conflicting advice which will only serve to exacerbate your problem, not solve it. Accordingly, if you and your husband are unable to resolve your problem satisfactorily between yourselves, why not consider getting outside help from a Christian counselor who has professional expertise in matters such as this? Extended separation of marriage partners is not an uncommon thing in our mobile world, and an experienced professional counselor has doubtlessly had occasions to deal with the very problem you and your husband now face. Your marriage bond is sacred and exceedingly precious. Please don't hesitate to protect and preserve it by whatever means that God may place at your disposal. In September my wife and I, if God wills, will celebrate the 44th anniversary of our marriage. There is no relationship on earth except our relationship with Jesus Christ that we prize more highly. May God be with you and your husband during this necessary but crucial time of being absent one from the other and bless your forthcoming reunion with joy and gladness. --Hank |