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1 | looking for scripture | Rom 12:1 | Renovate Me | 114811 | ||
Hi JR8, I feel for you bro, this is a tough spot. One thing to remember is that the Holy Spirit is the only one capable of changing your wife's heart, and Prayer Does Work! You say your wife attends church, but is she a Christian? Being in a church on Sunday does not make you a Christian any more than being in a garage makes you an automobile (o: I am hoping and praying your wife will come to know Jesus as her personal Lord and Savior, but the choice has to be hers. She must base all her decisions on God's Word, not what she or her girlfriends convince her what is more fun. Then she will no longer crave the things of this world. You are the child of the one you obey. If you follow the Holy Spirit, then you are a child of God, but if you follow distilled spirits (alcohol) and nightlife (darkness) then you are a child of the world. Your wife needs forgiveness, which she already has through Jesus, but she needs your forgiveness, which takes a lot of love on your part to offer and on her part to accept. You can start by telling her that life is like a race, with a trophy at the end for all who finish, as in a marathon. Now, who would want to run a marathon race wearing lead filled shoes and carrying iron weights? This is how she is running, while trying to go out at night with friends that have different primary objectives than she has. Her friend's objectives will most likely be to find a mate, whether permanent or temporary, but, let's not get into that. Just inform her in your most loving fashion that you want her to keep her eyes on the prize, because that is what you are doing and you want to remain a loving couple, not letting this tavern thing drive a wedge between your relationship God Bless you and her. Here is some additional important verses to go with the one above. Romans 12:1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship. 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will. Hebrews 12:1Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. 2Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart. |
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2 | Thanks but let me explain better | Rom 12:1 | jr8 | 114820 | ||
Thanks Renovate Me. I may have not explained it well. Yes she is a Christain. Claims to be very happy in our home. Its not like these ladies are bar hopping or anything. YET. So far just dinner and casual conversation. Which I am okay with, with married Christian friends. These women are single, but decent single women. Is this were I say OK I trust my wife [knowing the differnt life a single women lives and how the lifestyles are different]? Or stand my ground and not allow this type of relationship on a regular basis? |
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3 | Thanks but let me explain better | Rom 12:1 | Renovate Me | 114833 | ||
Hi, I believe you already are holding much of the answer in your hand, that is trust. Another important part is to keep the lines of communication open. While it is not so bad in itself for her to go out with friends, there is still a danger in the places they may decide to go and what the chain reaction of their decisions will lead them to. Do you get a picture here in your mind's eye? There may be one of the crowd that wants to reach the next level of excitement, and she will entice the others. The devil is the master of deception, is your wife up to the task? I am not saying she should not go out with the girls, for you say they are decent girls. I believe this, and am glad for it. Then, she should relate to them, and be a light that shines in the darkness to the unsaved among them. We as Christians are unable to bring our friends to Christ, that is the job of the Holy Spirit. Our job is to bring Christ to our friends. Jesus said we are to be salt and light. (If you want me to clarify that verse for you I will be more than happy to.) But we are told not to hide our light under a bushel, so how can your wife bring the love of Christ to her non-Christian friends if they do not build up an association with each other? She must be strong in her faith if she will attempt to accomplish this in dangerous or questionable surroundings. Again, this strength cannot come from ourselves, but only the Holy Spirit can build us up, so prayer, again is key. Remember to trust your wife and not smother her with the domestic life, but talk to her each time she does go out. Let her know that in this scenario you may struggle, but you love her so you trust her. Stand your ground, yes. But make it a firm ground that has a solid foundation, Jesus, the Rock of our salvation. This way you will let her go out, but you both need to come to an agreement, a compromise that will place a limit on this entertainment to the point where it will not place an unbearable burden on either of you. Yours in Christ. Me |
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