Subject: How do I forgive adultry if it continues |
Bible Note: Dear TJS, May I interject something here? YOU cannot forgive your ex-wife's sin. Only God can do that. What takes place concerning this act is between her and Him. What you are required to do is forgive her for how her sin affected you - and you do this, not for her, not even for God. You do it to put yourself in right standing with God. If there is anger, hurt, resentment over this in you then that affects your standing before God - you are out of balance. Place all of that (including the situation with your son) at the foot of the Cross and leave it there. When you begin thinking about it, start singing or humming What a Friend or Amazing Grace, anything to keep you from taking it back. YOu gave it to God, it's His now. God is faithful to heal your wounds if you allow Him to do so. (Please, be assured I'm not just rambling about something I know nothing about. My teenage daughter absolutely hates me and I've no idea why - and it hurts something awful, it's debilitating, it's crippling - if I take it back. But I've learned that only God can change hearts, we cannot. In His time, she will forgive and I will be there.) And in His time, your son will "come to his senses" and you will be there (either in this life or in the world to come). Please, be sure to follow the advice of brothers Brad and Hank and all the others, and seek Godly counsel. A counsellor can help you work through all of this. Leaning how to separate yourself from the hurt they have caused you and yet still think of them lovingly and pray for them is very difficult; but it can and must be done. Seek professional help from a Godly person. I'm sure you are already in the prayers of the many SBFers that have been reading this thread. May you find God's shalom. Cheri |