Bible Question:
How do you keep someone who has just lost a parent from being angry with God? My Boyfriend and I are both disciples/christians a little while after our son was born his mother past away. It has been almost a year now and he has just began to cope with his mother's passing. Along with trying to understand why his mom is gone a lot of questions he has about God has come up and he has also began to wonder if his mom is in heaven or hell. He has a lot of anger in him and I can see him beginning to change, he has become more worldly and less spiritual. He has even stopped praying and reading his bible. As for me it has become really difficult to handle him being unspiritual, now our lives and our beliefs are totally different. We were also planning on getting married this year now everything is placed on hold, because I do not feel good about marrying him being this unspirtual. Also, I would like our son to have a spiritual father who could teach our son about the goodness of God. It hurts me to him going back to his old lifestyle before he became a christian. I want to help him through this and I want us to become a family. But it is becoming very difficult for me to remain spiritual throughout all of this because it feels like I am just giving and giving and nothing is getting any better. I understand it takes a very long time to handle when a parent passes but how do I make him see that God still loves him. I pray that someone out there can give me some good advice on how to deal with this situation. |
Bible Answer: Dear Heaven: I see several issues in you question: I need to be honest, but loving at the same time. We reap what we sow is one principle of Gods. Byy your statement it appears you have a child by this man, with whom you are living with. Please correct me if I have not understood this correctly. One prob;em is that you are living in fornication, which is sin. You cand expect God tho change himor you when you refuse to repent of you sinful living arrangement. You say you are going to get married. Why would you want to? There are many believers like you, who are going to do things their way. Gods way is coutship, marriage, honeynoon, and establish a home, start your family. That's Gods ideal. However we fail. I suggest you and your fathers father part until he is genuinely saved, and you have a ring, and date to marry, and get married and then unite as husband and wife. This is called repentance. Your boyfriends grief needs Gods healing touch. God can habdel his anger. Whit some Godly counseling he might heal qquycker and in a healthy way. I woild say you both have your basket full. I encourage to turn to Christ and become a follower of His ways. Should you choose to continue living as you are I see little help for you or him. I pray you will be strong enough to do what is pleasing to God. agape, justme |