Bible Question:
How do you keep someone who has just lost a parent from being angry with God? My Boyfriend and I are both disciples/christians a little while after our son was born his mother past away. It has been almost a year now and he has just began to cope with his mother's passing. Along with trying to understand why his mom is gone a lot of questions he has about God has come up and he has also began to wonder if his mom is in heaven or hell. He has a lot of anger in him and I can see him beginning to change, he has become more worldly and less spiritual. He has even stopped praying and reading his bible. As for me it has become really difficult to handle him being unspiritual, now our lives and our beliefs are totally different. We were also planning on getting married this year now everything is placed on hold, because I do not feel good about marrying him being this unspirtual. Also, I would like our son to have a spiritual father who could teach our son about the goodness of God. It hurts me to him going back to his old lifestyle before he became a christian. I want to help him through this and I want us to become a family. But it is becoming very difficult for me to remain spiritual throughout all of this because it feels like I am just giving and giving and nothing is getting any better. I understand it takes a very long time to handle when a parent passes but how do I make him see that God still loves him. I pray that someone out there can give me some good advice on how to deal with this situation. |
Bible Answer: I am sorry you are faced with such a challenge. When you love someone who is going through such an experience, it is hard to know what is the right thing to do. You need to nurture your own faith and be a spiritual guide in the upbringing of your son. You want your boyfriend back in the same relationship with you and with God that he had before his mother died. You are all in my prayers as you deal with the problems. I will share with you that my mother's death had a tremendous impact on me, because she was very angry with me at the time of her death. Her anger had no justification, which made it much harder for me to deal with. It took almost three years for me to come to grips with my attitude. It didn't happen until I made an intense commitment to figure out what my relationship to my mother was all about, and the first step I made was to lay my own anger and resentment, not my mother's anger, on God's altar to be burned. I had to learn that my attitude could not be justified by her attitude. You can't preach at your boyfriend about his attitude, but you can keep the faith yourself and keep lifting him up to the Lord. As you talk to the Lord, be listening as well, for him to guide your words and actions toward your boyfriend. The Holy Spirit is a guide who can be trusted. God keep all of you safe. |