Bible Question: ok..i praise God for allowing me to find this website! I am a blood redeemed child of God.I recently re-married my ex husband because we bought a home together, and we were living together in this house to raise the children together. I did not love him then and i don't now. i don't want to hurt him, so I have never told him how I really feel. I have no desire to be with him and i know that divorce is wrong (and it would kill him), but I feel so trapped, miserable,and disarrayed. i know what the bible says on forgiveness and I have forgiven him but I choose not to be with him if I had a choice. How do I handle this situation? |
Bible Answer: "Now I ask you, lady, not as though I were writing to you a new commandment, but the one which we have had from the beginning, that we love one another." 2 John 1:5 Greetings again humbled2serve! Thank you for your elaboration and confession of your situation. I can fully appreciate where you are for I was in a similar place MANY years ago - yet I remember it as if it was yesterday . . . It was a beautiful fall day, I was surrounded by three loving children in a comfortable home and yet I was so unhappy - Although I could conjure up reasons for not loving my husband, I knew that this was NOT God's way. I remember sitting in our dining room, looking out the window and crying to God, "I don't love him, I want out of this marriage! But God, I want to obey You most of all. So, dear Heavenly Father, I will CHOOSE to love this man You have given to me because YOU have said,'Love one another.' I will do this in obedience and out of my love for You alone." I literally had CHOSEN to love my husband "in the Lord." (THY will not my will!) And then I got bolder and asked, "Lord, I have chosen to love him, no matter what, but could you please restore my FEELINGS of love for him?" And over the course of time, He did! My feelings returned for my husband and although there are plenty of storms in our marriage, God has honored my obedience and I have never lost my love for this man since that day. May this be a source of encouragement to you to CHOOSE to obey God, rather than follow your heart. Leave the results of your obedience up to Him. Only He is trustworthy to right every wrong and restore a God-honoring love to your relationship. Blessings from my heart to yours, Mommapbs |