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NASB | Matthew 19:5 and said, 'FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH'? |
AMPLIFIED 2015 | Matthew 19:5 and said, 'FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED INSEPARABLY TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH'? [Gen 1:27; 2:24; Mark 10:7] |
Subject: Is marrying for citizenship real? |
Bible Note: Here are the details of the case: These 2 people dated before and after the sham state marriage. When they legally married they were dating for about 6 months. The christian girl never would have even considered dating him if she thought he wasn't a christian. Before they dated, they were friends and he knew what her beliefs were. She shared the gospel with him and he claimed to have accepted the message of christ. It turned out that his conversion on his part was false. He knew she wouldn't date a nonbeliever and in order to not lose her, he claimed to have accepted Christ. Throughout the relationship they remained sexually pure. In the beginning of the relationship he went to church with her, prayed with her and was even baptised. I want to make clear that even though they cared for each other and were dating when they both married legally, neither of them believed they were truly married. She only knew him for 6 months and would still need the test of time to know him and know God's will regarding marriage. After 2 years dating him, he proposed and she reluctantly said yes, but something in her heart told her to delay the marriage. At that point, she started to suspect something was wrong because she didn't see the fruits of spiritual growth in him even if his moral outward life wasn't blatantly rebellious. She shrugged off that feeling by telling herself he just needed time to mature as a christian. As a result of her being with this man, the girl's relationship to God began to slowly suffer. She stopped going to church, barely prayed, hardly read the word etc.... She became attached to this man and felt stuck. Towards the end of the relationship, the girl's mother began to pressure them to start the wedding plans since their engagment was so long. The wedding plans were taking place and finally after seeking God's will through prayer, she confronted this man and he admitted to her that he didn't truly believe in God. She realized then that she couldn't marry him, but she still was struggling with fear, attachment and insecurity. One day, she went to church, heard a powerful message about maturity and contentment in God and the holy spirit empowered her to have the courage to do what she felt God was asking her to do. She believed God was telling her, "do not be yoked to an unbeliever......choose me and my will above what you will". The girl broke off the relationship and cancelled the wedding. She reconciled to God and remained single for 4 years until now. The nonbeliever who she broke up with immediately entered into another relationship with another girl who he lives with to this day. At the moment, this christian girl is dating a christian man who clearly shows the fruit of his spiritual closeness to God. In other words, there is no doubt in her mind that he is a christian. As her relationship deepens with this man both spiritually and emotionally, they are both thinking about marriage and that is how this whole issue came up. She asked me to post this question on the forum out of curiousity. She is studying about what makes a marriage valid and things of that nature. When the possibility presented itself that she may have inadvertantly married this man in God's eyes all those years ago, it really did a number on her. She and I are not seeking counsel on this forum , we are trying to understand what scripture teaches regarding what makes a marriage valid in the eyes of God. We are hoping to find some answers that could clarify or put to rest any doubt. The girl has presented this situation to her pastor and is currently awaiting a response. Please keep her in your prayers. Thank you |