Bible Question:
Okay, I'm sorry to be a bother. Please no hate or claiming I'm going to hell or something... If I've made a mistake and I've hurt God, I'll repent. I most likely sound stupid and childish. I'm not sure how to feel or what to think. I'm just a teenager and I'm lost. I don't need serious judgement... Just some insight. Mercy, please. Anyway, I've got a boyfriend. I'm 18, he's 20. I've been with him for almost three years. We waited two and a half years to have sex. It happened a few more times and then I put a stop to it because I dont know how God feels about me and him, and I don't want to hurt him. Ive always been a serious believer, did well when I was in highschool, my friends look up to me as a good Christian and "the good girl". This boy and I fully intend to marry. We were each others "firsts" and he's the first boy I ever kissed. I've never done any drugs or alcohol, I haven't even seen a rated "R" movie. The most trouble Ive ever been in was detention for being late to school too many times. I swear, I'm a good girl. Our families hate each other and there is no way they would support our marriage right now... Or ever, really. I feel horrible for doing it if it's wrong. But is it wrong if he's the only person who will ever know me this way? Was God only talking to promiscuous people who didn't love each other? Does He see that we want marriage and happiness and to raise children to live like him? If it is wrong and I repent and continue to wait until marriage, will He forgive me, or is it too late and I'm condemned? Help, please. If someone answers.... Thank you. I need it. |
Bible Answer: Please don't look for or take advice from people that aren't accountable to you and you to them. If you were raised in the church, go talk to your pastor. If you can't talk to him you must know someone that is a good Christian and that you feel comfortable to confide in. I know this is a hard subject and I'm sure you feel embarrassment even thinking about talking to someone but you need too. I have raised two daughters and I could tell you what I told them but you need and deserve so much more than that. You need someone you can count on to be there when the temptation or desire comes again. You need someone that be there for you to help you through this. You need accountability and someone that is accountable to you personally. |