Bible Question: When God revels something to someone, does He reveal it to another person at the same time or at different times? I received a vision of "who" my husband is to be- who is a minister, and the Lord has prepared me for the past year and still counting for this union. We have not started dating yet, and I just keep my focus on God untill His promise has been revealed. |
Bible Answer: Ivory I hope the minister isn't already married!!!!!? If he is God did not show that he was to be your husband. You can stop reading right here. If he is single. Make sure it was God and not emotional entanglement that convinced you this man was your next husband. It is common occurrence for men/women to feel a romantic connection for people that help them, the phenomena has a name which I can’t put my finger on right now. In any case the romantic attraction happens in cases like patient for their doctor, patient for their counselor, and many times a person for their Pastor. This has caused untold problems, as often times the person is able to draw the pastor into a illicit affair which ends up destroying them. I’m not saying this is the case in your situation but be very careful, you wouldn’t be the first to think the pastor is the man I should marry. If you truly believe this pastor is right for you make sure your right for him. Pastoring is very difficult and demanding both on the pastor and the family. You need to get a good education to insure you can add to conversations of various people you future spouse my be acquainted with. Also if you have any talents such as music, teaching, dealing with children refine and perfect them you will need them to help your spouse in ministry. Be prepared to be criticized for nearly everything you do. If you dress too good people will complain your blowing the pastors money if you dress not good enough people will complain you making the pastor and church look shoddy. If your children are well behaved you will be accused of nearly everything from drugging them to child abuse. If your children are children you will be accused of not properly raising them. And if you children get into trouble it will because they take after you certainly not the pastor. Learn to cook well nothing is more a source of conversation in the church than a pastor’s wife that can’t cook. You will be expected to do music, teach children and change many diapers in the nursery. That is why God gave pastors wives so the congregation wouldn’t have to do all those things. Honestly asset your personality and decide what you want out of life, you might find ministry is not your cup of tea. Ministry is more than a job or career it is a life style and one many people find they did not want to live once they got into it. Be prepared to never “own” your own home, stay too long in anyone place, and leave friends and family behind. If I haven’t talked you out of it by now then maybe God did show you something. In that case be patient and it will happen, what ever you do don’t jump the gun like Abraham and Sarah did. If God said it will happen then it He doesn’t need you to help it along. EdB |