Bible Question:
Is it wrong for a woman to divorce a man, because the husband is treating the wife terribly. For example, the husband gets mad for the littlest things, explodes into a flurry of rage, and flees, or gos somewhere else. This happens alot, and the wife can't live with this anylonger, for it hurts her terribly. She can't work efficiently, she is scared of her husband,(and I am too) and she can't be happy, because her heart is being broken all the time. -- Anonymous |
Bible Answer: I am going through the same thing, only my husband is claiming he is a christian. proof is in the fruit! anyways to answer your question, yes you are to stay with him. If he starts beating you to a pulp all the time then you can leave, because God wants his children to live in peace. The best thing to do is to continually pray to God throughout the day and while you are praying also pray about your husband and his salvation, and your situation. make sure you are living your daily life at home in front of him in a way that shows you are a Christian, who is full of love, patience, compassion, understanding and be a good listener. if there is something you can change of your self for your husband (as long as it is biblically ok) then do those things and one day you will find that he will come to the Lord. My mom had the same problem too but in a different way, her husband never claimed to be a Christian (looks like breaking the cycle for me didnt work even when i went looking for a christian, but it is all in God's plan for my life so im fine with it). it took him 14 years and a few years of just going to church, cause we always went, to check out why we go...and while i was gone out in the military couple years after highschool, i found that he got saved. God has a plan for your life, and his life. and if you pray, rely on God (firmly believing he will help you and be there to comfort you), and be Christ centered in your life....then you are being the best witness to him because he see's you living what you preach (so to speak). God bless, and if you have any other questions feel free to email me agapao@mail.com and if this is a guy leaving this message about his friend who is a girl, make sure you are seriously a platonic friend and do not interfere with God's plan for her life. Dont try to take over as her new "guy". This will mess up all 3 of your lives and God wont be happy that you jumped in the boat. Also if you are just helping out - thanks for searching for help for her, but make sure she finds a woman to help her and who can relate to her situation, so there are no sexual overtones or desires that start growing due to the two of you always being together. God bless! PS. Also if we do leave due to physical problems, we should try to get professional counceling to try and work it out and/or if that doesnt work...we are to continue to pray for our husband so that he will be saved, and the two of you can come back together again as husband and wife (unless he sleeps with another woman). then you are free because he has broken the marraige vow/contract God established. **Situations like these require time, patience, and a believer who knows and is grounded in scripture. Hold on to your hat and dig your feet in the ground. (this answer is not a legalistic one, it is a scriptural NT answer). |