Bible Question: Is playing 'matchmaker' Biblical? About a year ago, a friend of mine 'set me up' to meet a Christian girl who is about my age (middle 20s) at a restaurant. We had a great time eating dinner together and found out that we have many things in common. However, we remained acquaintances and still remain so today, even calling each other friends in Christian love. We still keep in touch through e-mail and send each other Bible verses.. :) However, I am convinced that our Lord has different paths for our lives in His service. Please tell me, was it right for my friend to 'set us up' like that, or was it Biblical? Is any matchmaking Biblical? Thanks in advance! |
Bible Answer: In Genesis 24:1-4 Abraham sent his servant to look for a wife for his son, Isaac. In 28:1-5, Isaac sent his son away to look for a wife. Judges 14:1-3 has Samson asking his parents go get him the wife of his own choosing. It is still part of some cultures to arrange marriages, usually by both sets of parents. Genesis 34:8ff is one case. Parents know their children ... the parents of the prospect, the prospect or the culture. I think your friend knows you and this woman. While I cannot recall friends arranging a couple, it is okay. If you saw Fiddler on the Roof - there was a professional matchmaker. It is important that your ministries can coincide. I know couples who are on the mission field or did not go ... and the wife is unfilled. If called to the mission field, it needs to be in the same place. I bring this up because who said that you two are on different paths. Ask her the path God has for her. It may be you or her have the "gift" of being single. I did not marry until I was 3 |