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Bible Question (short): handling relationships as a Christian

Question (full):
Hi,

Praise be to our Lord Jesus Christ.

I feel so confused on what to do as a christian in this matter.

My partner(23 yrs old) and I(25 yrs old, we are not married) I became saved first and then I drew her to Christ as well. She is the only one in her family that is saved they all dont believe in God. We both used to be in the world till we became saved. We do not live together and she lives just about and 2hrs train journey away.

We have been together for about 2 and half years. I was a bit more spritually higher than she was being that I did all the encouragement and she was very diligent. We both were in the ushers department and she was dedicated she used to come to church 3 times a month from were she lived. Everything was fine. And she has seen the power of God manifest in her life. God has put her in University(in her final year soon), provided her with a job, she bought a new car, she stooped drinking, going clubbing. God really made a lot of changes in both of us

Then she met this woman at work about 6months ago. The woman is 31 yrs of age and my partner is 23 yrs. This woman was a non beliver. Since my partner meant this woman she as really changed. She has stopped coming to church, she nearly broke up with me within this time in which I spoke to her if this is what she really wanted and she said no then we got back together. She has stopped praying with me and reading the bible with me, she doesnt come and see me anymore or come to church.

She used to tell me everything about this woman but as stopped telling me things. And I did warn her but i didnt want her to think I was ruling her by telling her what friends she can have.

The woman has 3 kids with her boyfriend(they are not married) and before my Partner changed towards me she used to tell me how the woman says she hates her boyfriend, her life and all sorts of negative things.

Since my partner has been with this woman she has started drinking again, going out clubbing again and doest want to hear anything about God or church.

I tried to work things out because I knew this was an attack on our relationship and was a spiritual battle for the salvation of my partner.

At this stage in the relationship the woman seems to have a great hold on her that she is always talks to the woman more than she talks to me. She talks to the woman like 5hrs in a go. And everytime I try and talk she gets very rude to, talks to me like dirt, drops the phone on me and she gets defensive about the woman which leads to arguements.

I then arranged at one time to come down and see her(at this point we were still actively together) booked my train ticket, packed my bags etc.
She then phoned me from the womans house and told me not to come down at that day reason being she was going out with the woman becasue she just finished her exams.

I then replied to her which is more important us working things out between us or you going out. At this point I ws quite annoyed and told her if I didnt come down today that it was over between us. She rudely said she didnt care.

My apologies on the long question. But what can I do as a christian.
After this incident she called be 5 days later saying she wanted to say hello and see how I was. I spoke to her briefly and she didnt even apologise or mentioned how she treated me or even said that she wants to work things out. She wanted me to make the first move as usual but I didnt. She hasnt called be back since about two days now from the date of this posting. I know she wants me to make the first move because I havent called her either since the incident. But I know if I call her she will say she wants to work things out and then think im easy by thinking she can get away with anything and all il do is just get angry for few days. But this time I have held out much longer.

I dont know what to do?

I really Love my partner and we have both been very faithful to each other and to God before she met this woman

Should I simply forget about her?

Please, Please any advice on what to do as a Christian and what the scripture says will be greatly appreciated.

regards,
gab

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