Bible Question:
Please forgive me if i burden any of you with this question, I have always had faith in our lord. Even though I seldom participate in church gatherings. I am also unfamiliar with the bible, even though ive been contiplating getting one to study. I have a problem and im in dire need for guidance, I recently became involved with a woman whom I care a great deal for, unfortunatly this woman was already taken. The person she's with now knows and is thinking of breaking it off, I now have a chance to return to the school I was attending and maybe get this girl back, the same possibility exists that I wont, and that he may return sooner than exspected and want to kill me literally. To me this girl is worth the risk but im unsure, if its love or lust that makes me want to be with this girl so bad, I've told myself id marry her if I was given the chance. Please forgive me if this is the wrong place to seek guidance but god has been the only one always there for me and maybe someone can explain to me if this is a test or if there is a writting to make me see the path clearer. please any guidance im in a very confusing and troublesome position and I feel as though I need to find my answer in a power higher than my own. thank you for any help. |
Bible Answer: You sure are caught up in the middle of something! You are not alone though. There are literally millions in similar situations. A few questions: You are not telling us your marital status, there fore I will assume you are single. By saying she is taken, is the woman married? If yes, read 2 Samuel 11 and 13. You may want to stay clear. The bible is very clear on this. Let no man divide what God has joined together. It is only death that is supposed to seperate married couples and am sure you don't want to be termed death. Too bad, many have and still do though! But if she is single and by taken you mean spoken for or has someone ready to marry her, then my question to you is this; how would you feel if someone else comes after your girl? That is right! You will do all to keep your girl! However, I find it odd, the other man wants to break off the realtionship instead of trying to keep her. This may be a pointer that he is not really serious with the woman. As to whether it is lust or love, it is only you who can answer that question. However, if as you say you will marry the girl if given the chance, then it seems you have set your eyes on her and you see qualities in her that meet your expectations as a future mate. The bible says in Matthew 7:7, ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find knock and the door shall be opened. What does she feel for you and for the other man? After all it is her life in question, discuss with her. I must mention, that you need to first have a relationship with the Lord and it will be much easier to live your life. Read Mathew 6:25-34. The Lord is the best counsellor there is, Isaiah 9:6 give Him this attribute. However, you may also wish to pursue this further with a Pastor or a Christian guidance counsellor. You do express a love for the Lord, those that love Him, obey Him. One way to obey Him is to constantly read His Word, the Bible. Get one or read online. In parting read John 14:1-14. I hope you get what your heart desires according to the will of God for you. Andy. |