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1 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | PVSpud | 147875 | ||
I agree that the American custom of dating is often dangerous and can invite danger into an otherwise strong relationship. But, I would watch your condemnation of those who completely trust their teenagers. Being one myself, I'm obviously slightly biased, but I'd like to share from a teenager's prespective. My parent's completely trust me, and my girlfriend and I have had no problems with Satan in our four months of dating. The complete trust has allowed me to feel their support and helped me accept responsibility. I think they fundamentally understand that they cannot stop me from making my own choices, and by encouraging and advising those, they can have a greater impact than restricting me from making them. On the other hand, I've heard from some (three immediately come to mind) teenage friends who say that the lack of trust creates a desire to rebel. Their parents checking on them constantly and restricting them has encouraged the "Russian Roulette" dating among them. So, for those who look for the best method of raising and nurturing their teens, I would say trust is good, though few can handle complete trust. |
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2 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | charis | 147890 | ||
Dear PVSpud, Blessings to you in Jesus’ name! I appreciate your comments “from a teenager’s perspective.” It is refreshing to read an intelligent note from young man. I was once a youth, too, and even remember some of the turmoil I went through. I understand you wanting to make the “which came first” argument that trusting parents produces obedient children. The Bible even supports that to some degree… "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4 NASB "Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart." Colossians 3:21 NASB However… “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child (see note below); The rod of discipline will remove it far from him. “ Proverbs 22:15 NASB Strong’s - nah'-ar - From H5287; (concretely) a boy (as active), from the age of infancy to adolescence; by implication a servant; also (by interchange of sex), a girl (of similar latitude in age): - babe, boy, child, damsel [from the margin], lad, servant, young (man). And… “Among them we too all formerly lived in the lusts of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, even as the rest.” Ephesians 2:3 NASB Please do not label my comments as “condemnation.” I am a shepherd, called to preach and teach the word of God. Your parents may not “Check on you constantly,” but if they aren’t watching you and communicating with you, they are indeed foolish. It seems that you have a rare relationship with your parents, treasure it! As to your ability to discern whether or not you have “problems with satan,” watch out! “Self Diagnostics” does not work that well with computers, and is even worse with people. If you are truly able to enjoy a healthy, non-physical relationship, exploring one another’s hearts in preparation for marriage, you two are very special! But if you think that you can get physically intimate-but-never- too-intimate, and date around until you find the “right” person, you are indeed living in deception. Please note that succumbing to temptation just once can hurt a lot of people! Modern “dating” is not written in the Bible anywhere. In the Lord Jesus, we have friendship, and we have courting. (watch John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara in “The Quite Man,” but PLEASE try to have a less explosive courtship!) Blessings in Christ Jesus, charis |
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3 | elaborate? | Bible general Archive 1 | PVSpud | 155889 | ||
I certainly agree. A trusting parent is not a submissive parent, and if indeed my home were without discipline, I should doubtless be the worse for it. They do not avoid the obvious in their parenting, nor show restraint in questioning suspicious behavior, as parents should, only they trust my actions without 'exasperating.' Very different, trust and permissive. And that goofy language can probably be attributed to Russian literature. Also, if you have the time, could you elaborate on your coment about modern dating, in relation to the Bible, the influence of culture, and the aim of dating? I would greatly appreciate it. |
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4 | elaborate? | Bible general Archive 1 | Searcher56 | 155900 | ||
Review what charis said and read the books. The Bible really doesn't cover dating per say. The Western culture has influenced dating ... which is to put on a show to get the other person do something (for some, dare I say most). Courtship is better, I think. Spend time in a group ... or in the nursery and with preschoolers at church. If I would counsel anyone who wanted to date, and even more engaged couples they need to spend time with little ones. Get to know the person without phyiscal contact ... and even just write/call them. I speak from expereince ... it lets both know alot. Searcher |
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