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1 | What should I do with my in-laws? | Matt 5:44 | Mommapbs | 24024 | ||
Best place to get answers is God's Word. Jesus said in Matthew 5:44, "But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you," I know this sounds simplistic considering the amount of "stuff" you have to deal with in these dysfunctional relationships but I can assure you, prayer works. You can not change another person's feelings or behaviors, but you can change the way that you respond t o them! From reading your family history, there is a lot of forgiveness that needs to be extended. Begin in your own heart. God commands us to love one another (not the things they do to us, etc), to forgive one another (even if they don't ask for it!) and pray for one another! You can't stay angry or mad at someone you bring before the Throne of Grace. Prayer will change you! I know, I speak from experience. It was VERY hard to confess my hatred and refusal to forgive those who didn't like me either, but the only person my anger was hurting was me. I was become more critical and bitter, certainly not a reflection of Jesus! Trusting in Him to work out the details, I got rid of those things and guess what happened? I was able to love them with a supernatural kind of love, forgiving them for things they didn't even know were hurting me, and I was able to behave and respond to them, inspite of their treatment of me, in a Christlike manner. Look again at what you have asked, and the details you have given. SOme serious healing is needed. Ask for yourself first. "Love the Lord your God. . . . and others as you love yourself." Hope this helps! Mommapbs | ||||||
2 | What should I do with my in-laws? | Matt 5:44 | tray | 24029 | ||
Thanks mommapbs, I have been ignoring so many things throughout the years that I have just come to a boil and I am ready to explode on all of them verbally and phsyically. I have turned the other cheeck so many times and I just seeth inside and they never know that I want to just give them a piece of my mind. I was taught to always be respectful to my elders (mother-in-law) and she never heard me say a bad thing, but it seems the more I don't say something, the more they talk about me and exclude me. They say the reason that they don't like me is because I isolate myself from the family but the only reason that I do that is because I have seen the deveiousness in all of them and I don't want to be a part of it. They smile in my face and talk behind my back. I don't know what they talk about because me and my husband don't really talk to any of them because of this. That what lets me know that they are envious that I don't run to them when my husband and I have any disagreements, where the ex told the whole family what was going on (her interpretation.) I have never felt so bitter and angry before and I feel them getting under my skin and trying to change me into a hateful person like they are. I know better, but telling them all off would make me feel so much better. | ||||||
3 | What should I do with my in-laws? | Matt 5:44 | Mommapbs | 24038 | ||
As you have discovered, complacency does not work. And revenge is robbing from God! He declares, "Vengence is mine" See Romans 12:19. Don't go there! When one turns the other cheek, forgiveness is necessary first. Based upon your heart attitude,(I seethe inside; I want to give them a piece of my mind) this component seems to be missing here! As a man (or woman!)thinketh in his heart, so is he! You write: 'I have never felt so bitter and angry before and I feel them . . .trying to change me into a hateful person like they are.' Dear sister, they can NOT change you, only you can change you. And you are letting your responses to their character be a reflection of who they are rather than Christ. How did Jesus react to his persecuters? Go and do likewise! Thankfully, you don't have to die for them! You write that you KNOW better. OK, now act on what you know and don't let yourself be driven by your feelings! Pray, forgive, pray, love and pray some more! This may be hard, but as you pray,think of one thing to give thanks to God for, even if it is to be thankful for the union that produced your husband, and make a habit of doing this. In this way, you will be obedient to God's command to "let your requests be made with thanksgiving . . . " Phil. 4:6 BTW, You can always be thankful that God has not excluded you from HIS family! I'll pray with you on this. Hopefully other believers who read this posting will be moved to join with me in lifting you up! God is on your side. If you choose HIS way, He will fight for you! Trust me, you will feel better when you do it HIS way! |
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