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1 | Please help me understand divorce. | 1 Cor 7:1 | justme | 167817 | ||
Believer31675: This is one of the most important questions you will most likely have to deal with. I must ask, are each of YOU born again Christians? I am assuming this is the case. Has this man done EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to reconcile with his ex wife? Has it been a year or so from the divorce? Has he gone to professional counseling to work out his grief and work through what issues WERE his fault? NO ONE is blameless. Were there Biblical grounds for the divorce. Were either or both of them Christians when the divorce occured? These questions are vital to work through. If his ex wife is not remarried, you want to be sure beyond a doubt there is no possibility of restoring this broken marriage. Of course if she is remarried there is no way for reconciliation to come about. The time of one year is time for healing to have come about for some. The professional counseling is so important. There is no such thing as just one person being totally at fault. Just being married to the person with many problems is a problem in and of it's self. I am sure there is guilt and anger, and not to admit to it is not a healthy, and may indicate a problem. There could be many issues, if left unresolved, would only carry over into ANY future relationship he would have. If there is even the smallest hint of restoration of this prior marriage, then you MUST step aside and let the Holy Spirit work. You don't mention if there are children involved. If there are children, this will be a lifetime of so much that is going to be there is no way to predict what you will be required to endure. Tred lightly and pray EARNESTLY for the Lord to give you courage, strength and direction. Paul in 1 Corithians give examples of how to deal with these questions. Jesus said that adultery is the only permissible reason for divorce. That does not mean a person has to divorce, but rather it is better to reconcile. Hardness of heart is at the root of all divorces. Biblically if there is no way to restore the marriage, he would be free to remarry, but only to a Christian. I caution you that WHATEVER problems that he had in the last marriage will come again or similar, in your potiential marriage with him. Marriage to someone who has been married before is not to be entered into lightly without seeking a Christian counselor that is willing to spend the time to help you both in this major step. Also keep in mind many churches will not accept you as anything but second class Christians. Which is very sad but very true. These things I have written not out of judgement but out of the reality of living, pastoring, counseling and knowing many couples that have faced these very life-changing questions. May you pray for the Lord's devine wisdom. Your decision will affect many more than you know at this time. justme |
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2 | Please help me understand divorce. | 1 Cor 7:1 | believer31675 | 168426 | ||
Just me, To answer your question, no, there are no children involved. Yes, he has been going to a counselor. His ex-wife has not married another, but I am positive there is no chance for reconciliation between the 2 considering they have not had contact with each other for over 5 months. She has moved to a new home and a new location. Thank you so much for your help in this matter. I just do not want to be considered a bad person for wanting to be with one who is divorced. |
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