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Bible Question: My current boyfriend is divorced.I know that in the bible it states that divorce is a sin and should not occur. You see his wife asked ofr the divorce and decided to leave him. He and I love each other. Now, if he were to marry me, in the eyes of the bible he is committing adultery because he will not be with she who he was first married. Am I correct? Next, where does that leave me? I have never been married. Am I committing a sin by being with him because he is divorced? I do not want to go against God and the Bible but I also love this man very much and want to spend my life with him. Can this be done? Please help me to understand this better. |
Bible Answer: Believer31675: This is one of the most important questions you will most likely have to deal with. I must ask, are each of YOU born again Christians? I am assuming this is the case. Has this man done EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to reconcile with his ex wife? Has it been a year or so from the divorce? Has he gone to professional counseling to work out his grief and work through what issues WERE his fault? NO ONE is blameless. Were there Biblical grounds for the divorce. Were either or both of them Christians when the divorce occured? These questions are vital to work through. If his ex wife is not remarried, you want to be sure beyond a doubt there is no possibility of restoring this broken marriage. Of course if she is remarried there is no way for reconciliation to come about. The time of one year is time for healing to have come about for some. The professional counseling is so important. There is no such thing as just one person being totally at fault. Just being married to the person with many problems is a problem in and of it's self. I am sure there is guilt and anger, and not to admit to it is not a healthy, and may indicate a problem. There could be many issues, if left unresolved, would only carry over into ANY future relationship he would have. If there is even the smallest hint of restoration of this prior marriage, then you MUST step aside and let the Holy Spirit work. You don't mention if there are children involved. If there are children, this will be a lifetime of so much that is going to be there is no way to predict what you will be required to endure. Tred lightly and pray EARNESTLY for the Lord to give you courage, strength and direction. Paul in 1 Corithians give examples of how to deal with these questions. Jesus said that adultery is the only permissible reason for divorce. That does not mean a person has to divorce, but rather it is better to reconcile. Hardness of heart is at the root of all divorces. Biblically if there is no way to restore the marriage, he would be free to remarry, but only to a Christian. I caution you that WHATEVER problems that he had in the last marriage will come again or similar, in your potiential marriage with him. Marriage to someone who has been married before is not to be entered into lightly without seeking a Christian counselor that is willing to spend the time to help you both in this major step. Also keep in mind many churches will not accept you as anything but second class Christians. Which is very sad but very true. These things I have written not out of judgement but out of the reality of living, pastoring, counseling and knowing many couples that have faced these very life-changing questions. May you pray for the Lord's devine wisdom. Your decision will affect many more than you know at this time. justme |