Bible Question: i was saved 13 months ago and have been attending the church that my wife was membered at.the pastor is my wifes brother-in-law.the problem is that it is not growing and is somewhat -rednecked- it is really countryfied with bibbed overall mentality.everyone there is lacking in education [that is not the reason for my concerns]but it adds to the delima.the pastor is really bullish and after ten years of service,last sundays attendance was 12 including the pastor and his wife.the singing is really lousy with people forgetting the words,some who sing each week behind the alter sing the same songs each week with the words or hymnal still mess up constantly,i feel that they could at least practice and get it right,[after all, this is our lord we sing about and we are in his house]GET IT RIGHT.i have convinced my wife we need to move on to somewhere more godly. but her sister has already started in on her with the remark that god will beat me up for leaving,i cant say that they are lacking in the lord,for it is not my desire to knock anyone down.there is a need for sure to teach everyone,but my wife and i are not growing,if i must go on without my wife,so be it but,i fear that as i learn more and she stays behind,that it will cause more problems between us,i want for her as much as i want for myself,,please advise |
Bible Answer: I was in your position as well. My husband was ready to leave my home church of 30 years to attend somewhere that would help us both grow. I finally just had to make a choice on my own. I could stay where I was and become stagnet or I could move forward and follow God's will for my family. I had attended that church with my family all my life. It was a difficult decesion for me, but after I stood on my own two feet and told them that I needed more they have been more accepting. I visited that church just recently and I realized at that moment that I had made the right choice. I feel that the Lord has moved me spiritual over the past 5 years by putting me in a church home surrounded by other believers that are constantly offering new ways to service the Lord. What an honor it is to be apart of something so great. Best of Luck. God Bless. |