Bible Question:
How do you help a controlling person? |
Bible Answer: I can only think of an old suggestion given to me many years ago by a good friend. He noticed and told me that I tend to be a controlling type person. I admitted it to him, in confidence, don't you know. Then he became one of my best friends by saying this, (he got it from an E-Mail): "If you're hooked on being the pilot in your life, move over!!" Yeah, caught me by surprise, you bet. All I could do was shut my mouth and that's tough for me. If we want our lives to go well; if we really want closer and better relationships with those that really mean a lot to us, we need to give up the wheel and settle for being the co-pilot. We need to give up being "first fiddle" and settle for second place. An addiction to anything in our lives, including our being in control is just another idol in between us and our God and can very well keep such a person out of Heaven forever. If that doesn't shake up your friend, I don't have a clue as to what else would do it. Just plant the seed, tell 'em you love him/her and that you'll continue praying for them. And then let God do the rest, including the humbling of their heart. Don't forget about them or give up on them; check 'em every once in a while. Ja 5:13 Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing psalms. 14 Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. 16 Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. 19 Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, 20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins. and Prov 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall. 19 Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, Than to divide the spoil with the proud. Go with God in all things, Bill |