Bible Question:
I am 19 years old and really need some help. I have always wanted to be a mother, ever since I was a child. I have never had any success with men, and the only kind of men that seem to enjoy me are not at all the kind of man I should be with. I have never had a boyfriend, and the only real relationship I had with a guy who was a big time Christian turned out to be devastating and depressing, because he lied to me and was with another girl three days before my birthday and hurt me deeply. I really cared for and liked this person, and he rejected all of me. I recently have moved on, and met someone else who I found very intriguing and have a lot in common with. But now, he won't talk to me even after a deligtful 10 hour date, and doesn't seem at all interested in me anymore. I feel very rejected and hurt again. Please, someone help me understand why I always feel so down and disappointed and feel like God just doesn't like me. I have no friends, and no one understands me. I feel ridiculed when I try to talk about my spiritual desires and questions, and I don't even want to have feelings or talk to any person anymore, for they all just bring me heartache. I am miserable, and I don't know why God does this to me. I have always tried my very best to be a good girl, all my life. I live to make people happy, and thrive off of making people smile. But I don't know how much longer I can live this way. I am very sad, and very confused. If God knows my heart's desire to love someone and have a family, then why won't he give me that? |
Bible Answer: Greetings Luna, First let me state that this is not the place to come for advice (not any forum). The venue just doesn't allow for the "personal touch" you need. And most of the regulars here are just ordinary people, not psychologists, so we're not trained to give you the help you need. Please seek professional help, either from a licensed psychologist or your pastor. It sounds to me like you need help seeing your worth outside of a relationship. You say you have no friends and no one understands you. It could be that they would like to be friends with you but you frighten them with your intensity. Get some one on one professional help to help you find that whole, intelligent, talented person that you are. When you start presenting that self-reliant person to everyone, they'll come flocking to you. I will tell you that the one thing I stressed the most to my kids was to not rush into any relationships. Get your education, get your career going, get your feet firmly planted on the ground first. In other words, a capable, self-reliant, self-sufficient person will draw that kind of person to themselves. Also, a lot of what you're going through has a name - Teenager. You're almost through it, hang on. Things do get better. Slow down. Relax. Enjoy your youth, it's gone far too quickly. God may know that you are not ready yet for a deep relationship. Better to wait on His timing and perfect mate than to rush into a big mistake. Look what happened when Abraham and Sarah decided to help Him keep His promise to them about a son! The descendants of those two boys are still at each other's throats! I will pray that you find the help you need to help you learn how to shine. We all have a light in us that the world needs (see the world needs you more than you need the world!!), some of us just need a little help in the twinkle department. :o) |
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