Bible Question: A girl in our church is very unhappily married with kids. She and I have recently become very good friends (I am male). I have learned that she has developed an enormous crush on me and is about to leave her husband in the hopes that I will become interested in her. She has told a couple of her friends about her feelings for me. I have never done anything to provoke these feelings in her. It has gotten out-of-hand (she calls and e-mails me many times a day and is starting to ask very leading questions). I have somewhat tried to avoid confronting her about this, but a friend told me that as a brother in Christ of hers, I am obligated to confront her because this is tanatmount to adultery. I seem to remember reading or hearing this also. Does anyone know where I might find references to this in the Bible? I am hoping that if I can find this and read it, I might find some inspiration on how to handle this situation...it cannot continue because she is about to make the wrong decision for the wrong reasons. Thank you. |
Bible Answer: You and your married woman friend must be very young: Mature people don't usually speak of developing "crushes" -- that's a word we used as high-school teenagers. Young man, you're messing around with fire with this wife of another man -- and a mother yet! Wake up, get counsel if you require it and encourage the woman to get counsel too -- both of you could very likely use some mature guidance -- but at all events break off this relationship with this married woman and mother totally, cleanly, permanently, and quickly before you both get severely burned! Don't dally around. Do it now, today! --Hank |