Bible Question:
Am I still "Married" in Gods eyes? I was married to what I believed was a Christian Man. We had hard times, he had a bad temper and was extremely controlling. After 2 children and 5 years of marriage, he ended it. He basically drug me through, kicking and screaming. He was NOT cheating and neither was I. I didn't feel we had a scriptual divorce, so I was willing to separate while we "worked" on it, but he just wanted a divorce and be done with it. And he got it! Texas, you can do that! So, now, It's been a year and a 1/2 since he left and about 5 months since final divorce and I don't know how to feel. I have NO husband, he's not here, he doesn't want to be here, but we didn't have a scriptual divorce. So am I still married to him in Gods eyes? Am I still "bound" to him? I have no evidence or even possibilities that he is with or has been with anyone else. He still attends his church Sundays and Wed, and volunteers at the Church functions, he is the "perfect little christian" to everyone else. So what am I to do, as a Christian Woman. Wait for him to go have sex with someone, then I'm no longer "bound" to him? That may NEVER happen. I have not dated or seen anyone, of course. I am focusing on the kids and my church and God. Letting him guide me, but I just feel so lost... like I'm in limbo or something. I don't know if I am able "as a Christian Woman" to let the marriage bond go... And since "God joined us together" in marriage, doesn't HE have to release us... I'm not feeling that... is it just me... or what? What should I do.... |
Bible Answer: Please see Matthew 19:9. It says: "I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for [sexual] immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." Mark 10:12 says: "If she herself divorces her husband and marries another man [except for sexual immorality], she is committing adultery." So, you are not free to date or marry another man until you have this ground! So, you can try to follow the advice of 1 Corinthians 7:10, 11: "To the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce [leave, separate from] his wife." So, at the moment, your husband is not an example to the congregation. |