Bible Question: Both my husband and I have committed adultery. Mine was 8 years ago and 6 years ago, I realised that my husband also has an affairs outside. We repented (he didn't know about mine then) and we moved on. Recently, he said he knew about mine and wanted to divorce me. We have 2 children 10 and 7. What do I do? Should I agree to the divorce? |
Bible Answer: Matt 19:3 Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?" Matt 19:4 And He answered and said, "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, Matt 19:5 and said, 'FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH'? Matt 19:6 "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." Matt 19:7 They *said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?" Matt 19:8 He *said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. From the beginning in the Garden of Eden to the present, God has ALWAYS preferred a couple to stay a couple after marriage. When both spouses in a marriage are guilty of adultery, this presents a problem. I think overall, the Bible stresses the importance of forgiveness whenever possible and it seems to me that both of you HAD FORGIVEN the other of these offenses in the past. A person could strongly argue that sins once forgiven are supposed to be forgotten and not brought up again. I'm not saying that you don't reap the consequences as we all do that but the blame for the sin and to rehash it again for yet another rouond of punishment is strictly against God's Word. BUT with all that said, as it has been mentioned many times on this Forum, this IS NOT the ideal place to get this kind of counseling. You and your husband really need to be counseled by another christian counselor, face to face. Hopefully, he will submit to such a wise course, if he truly cares about you and/or those kids. I'm a firm believer in the fact that it's our kids who suffer the most across America for the flippant attitude so many have about God's only other perfect insitution, that is marriage. It's the very foundation for successful living for this planet. I'll be praying for both of you, hoping that you can work it out and live a long together. My spouse and I have been married now for 28 years, first time marriage for both of us. We've had our struggles but we're determined to go to our graves together. Blessings to you. Country Girl PS: Just in case either of you is interested, you'll both probably live longer if you stay married. |