Bible Question:
OK I don't want to offend anyone and it didn't say anywhere on here stuff about adult questions, but this is definately an adult question so if u r not an adult preferrably a married adult is who i want to talk to, please disregard this question thank you. To my question, my husband and I are having a discussion regarding oralsex. He believes that it is sodomy and therefore a sin and should not b performed i on the other hand do not agree with him, we have both searched the Bible but can't seem to find an answer to our question. If anyone can answer this, is oral sex sodomy, if it is then is it considered wrong for married couples to engage in oral sex, and if it is not sodomy, is there any sin attached to it. I am of course talking about this happening between a married couple. Thank You |
Bible Answer: Hi cherryappleberry, I don't see oral sex as being in the definition of sodomy. My definition of sodomy is taken from the official dictionary of choice of the Associated Press, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and other leading newspapers.:) You ask "if it is not sodomy, is there any sin attached to it." I would say that sin enters the marital situation when something is forced upon the mate. I would encourage you to do the things that both of you enjoy. Romans 14:12-23 can apply to your situation. Verse nineteen says "So then let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another." Do the things that both of you enjoy. Verse 14 speaks to whether it is unclean or not. "I know and am convinced in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself; but to him who thinks anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean." It goes on in verse 21 to say that it is not good to do anything by which your brother [by application, husband] stumbles. Verse 15 can be applied to your situation in that if "oral sex" hurts your husbands relationship with the Lord, then you will not do it or ask it of him because you are to walk "according to love". On the other hand, don't let your husband's feelings necessarily sway your own convictions. Verse 16 says "Therefore do not let what is for you a good thing be spoken of as evil." Verse 22 says that happy is he [she] "who does not condemn himself in what he approves". If you can agree later on that it is not a sin, I would think that there are possibilities of enjoyment there. But you know the kingdom of God is not in deciding what to eat and drink [or in having good sex, with or without oral sex]. The kingdom of God is "righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit"[Or, holy spirit?] See verse 17. I think that you will find hope in the Scriptures and will persevere to not only please yourselves, but to edify others. I think that it is important for you both to accept one another, trying to be of the same mind. Romans 15:13,14, "Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. And concerning you, my brethren, I myself also am convinced that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, and able also to admonish each other." From the heart, Ray |