Subject: Why cant I remarry, even though... |
Bible Note: Raven, I wish you would read all of my note before posting a reply to me. It would be only fair to hear me out, don't you think? I believe Eph 5:25-29 with all my heart. I endeavor to do that. But how many of us do it PERFECTLY as Christians? How many of non-believers do this? What should a Christian woman do who, instead of having her husband love her as Christ does, he pummels her in a drunken stupor almost every Friday night? Is that God's will, brother? Would you tell this saint to just stay and endure it? You wrote: "And if people would truley pattern their lives after the bible you would not have all these disfunctional marraiges." I agree with you 100 percent, Raven. If we only could. But the reality is that we don't. And it truly does take two. What if one of the marriage partners is unwilling? You wrote: "If two people who are Christians get married and each of them love God more than each other then there will nothing but joy and love in their relationship and a lifetime together to worship God." I agree. But this does not come naturally. This requires the hardest thing that we can do as humans - self-sacrifice. And I've found that it rarely occurs. Apart from Christ in us, we cannot do this. And, as I've said, it takes two. Please read the rest of my notes to Dimples. Look at the scriptures I've cited and ask if they are true. I usually don't just publish what I think without some scriptural support, especially on such a "hot" topic where emotions can flare. I was divorced from my first wife in 1985. She committed adultery. I had "biblical grounds" but I loved her and did not want the divorce. But she did not want to reconcile, she wanted the other guy. I sought the counsel of a pastor friend of mine who insisted that if I let her divorce me, I would never again be in God's will. So not only did I have no control over my first wife (despite my prayers), according to his "biblical counsel", I would never again be in God's will because it was God's will for us to stay together. That time was like hell on earth for me. Yet, Christ never left me, never forsook me and has given me another beautiful Christian lady and we have 2 wonderful children. Was it God's will for me to stay married to my first wife? Yes, I believe it was. But is He a forgiving God? Is He a God who can replace what "the locusts have destroyed?" Yes, He is. He is a God of grace. I agree with the standard, brother. What I disagree with is the bondage and condemnation that we, as Christians, are so quick to mete out when, for reasonable, sound reasons that standard can't or won't be met. Blessings to you, brother. ChristLifer2001 |