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NASB | Colossians 3:2 Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. |
AMPLIFIED 2015 | Colossians 3:2 Set your mind and keep focused habitually on the things above [the heavenly things], not on things that are on the earth [which have only temporal value]. |
Bible Question: I got into an argument with my boyfriend the other day about watching movies with nudity in it. He owns a few movies where there is only about 1 or two scenes with nudity. I told him that this makes me feel uncomfortable because even though it does not "turn him on" (he told me it doesn't and I believe him) he is still putting those images into his head. I brought up Colossians 3:2 "set your minds on things above, not on earthly things." He still argues that if these scenes are not turning him on then there is nothing wrong with him watching them. But I know that if we get married and I become his wife, there is no way I would ever want him to see another womans naked body. Whether it turns him on or not, it makes me uncomfortable, and out of love for me (or his wife one day) he should naturally want to stop his actions that are making his wife uncomfortable. I told him this and he brought up the issue of controlling one another. He said that he wont let his wife control him because she has a problem. I said it is not a matter of controlling but a matter of me going to him and telling him something that is hurting me and me trusting that his response will be loving and wanting to help me. Am I wrong or is he wrong or what? I really need help with this. Am I taking the bible out of context? Help me please! Thank you |
Bible Answer: Hi, Natie! I believe that the premarital period is the training grounds for Christians... "the two will become one" cannot happen in a vacuum! In the Bible we hear about people being spoused to each other (marital obligations without the sexual consumation of the wedding vows)... today, even "Christians" refuse to abide to that bond until the very last second of the "I do."--some retain the worldly version of that contractual agreement (they want to do as they please!) I could cite some Bible verses that speak on the relationship between the husband and wife, but it seems that your boyfriend has already made up his mind that he will not yield to you because "he wont let his wife control him"... sadly too many couple see marriage as a war of wills instead of a merging of minds and spirits... what's even worst is that Christians are emulating more and more society's values while rejecting Scripture! Speak to your boyfriend about how you feel when he engages in the viewing of such films... explain, lovingly, to him how important it is for you both that you respect each other and love each other in a genuine Christians relationship where Christ is part of the unity! If you desire Scripture that speak on mariage--not to be used as a club against your boyfriend, but as a learning tool for both of you--drop a line and I'll do my best to supply with them! One point of advise: PRAY, PRAY, PRAY--the Holy Spirit can give us understanding beyond measure! God Bless! Angel |