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NASB | Colossians 3:18 ¶ Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. |
AMPLIFIED 2015 | Colossians 3:18 ¶ Wives, be subject to your husbands [out of respect for their position as protector, and their accountability to God], as is proper and fitting in the Lord. |
Bible Question:
My husband loves to use this verse a lot. But I'm having this feeling that it doesn't apply to every situation he tries to use it for. Does "Wives be subject" mean I have no Freewill to do anything and that I am under his total control for every situation we come across. I believe that this verse means that Women are to submit WILLING to their husbands, but we are also God's created and thus have a freewill to explore our options. It's not an absolute dictatoriship. Any help? |
Bible Answer: Bernadette, Ephesians 5:22-33 Describes the Marriage of Man and Woman to be similar to that of the marriage between Jesus and the church. Jesus loves the church(people) so much that he died for the people so that the all men might live. A husband is told to love[present tense] his wife. Which is acted out in an ongoing second by second love. Even when the wife is being unlovable. Conversely the wife is supposed to respect(present tense] her husband. Which is acted out in an ongoing second by second respect. Even when the husband doesn't deserve it. Eph 5:33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. My wife and I struggled for many years, and still do minimally, concerning Gods Word here in Ephesians. But we did get some help in the form of some books. We have read the books by Shanti and Jeff Feldhahn called "For Women Only" and "For Men Only". We both read the book that was supposed to be the others manual and confirmed that the books were "right-on-target" and then we gave them to each other. Quite an eye opener when you realize how differently men and women think and act under identical situations. It is also very enlightening concerning the "Love" and "Respect" part of the equation. And, you are right it is not an absolute dictatorship it is a marriage...a combining of what is good in a woman and what is good in a man into a cohesive unit that is conducive to raising children. Under the Love and Respect umbrella the woman can be happy and so can the man. When you and your husband finally wrangle the idea of Love and Respect into your marriage you will find yourself asking your husband to help make decisions that have an effect on the household and marriage. And he will start to give you freedom through love because you will have proven yourself to be a Proverbs 31:10-31 Wife. But, if you have marriage busting discord in you and your husbands lives you would do well to get into church fellowship with other married couples to take some Marriage Bible Study lessons. Or, see a biblically backed marriage counselor. For what God has joined together let no man(or woman) tear asunder. In the name of Christ may you clasp hands and pray together that Jesus becomes the central focus of your marriage. Then when either participant of the marriage has fallen short in the role they are to play it will be possible for the married couple to still stand face to face and although they appear to be looking into each others faces they can be looking over the shoulder of their loved one to Jesus who will never disappoint us. Amen, MWLaine |
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