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NASB | Matthew 6:6 "But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, close your door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you. |
AMPLIFIED 2015 | Matthew 6:6 "But when you pray, go into your most private room, close the door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees [what is done] in secret will reward you. |
Bible Question:
Good Morning I am a Christian, I married a lady equally yoked as a beliver in the word of God. We have been married now for almost years, but of that time we have been "separated" for 6 months. We are not yet at the point of talking about divorce, and I am not seeking to divorce even though she had an affair( and my be still involved),i see reconciliation of our marriage). There were several things that took place in our relationship from me trying to take too many things in my family both married and blood family. My family members somee have adiction issue(my dad, sisters, and brother). I have had so much pressure on me as a reasult of the calls for help, and trying to deal with things at home; finances, a son in college and not knowing where we would get the funds for that;pressures of my job. I lost site of everything including myself. i need help in restoring my marriage according to God's word (if this is possible), but i have to be able to say nad do the things to ge tmy wife away form the other man.(relationships are ot my strong point as I have not seen many that worked out)only the ones that have had infedelity, fighting,running away from problems, adn in my case my wife confided in am man who homself was having issues in his own marriage. I believe God is working in my marriage but i need to here His voice when He is speaking to me about what I must do in the time that H is working. My wife has said that she doen't love me the way a wife should love her husband, that we are can be friends. That is what we based our love on first "Friendship". Is ther any help for our relationship at all or should I just accept that we are heading towards divorce(GOD FORBIB). Can you give some direction should i/we seek counceling, and can a marriage be saved with just one spouse wanting the marriage to work out. Please help!!!!! thanks Faithfull husband |
Bible Answer: Faithful husband: What you see as the big problem, your wifes unfaithfulness, is just the tip of a deep iceburg. Often the wife has been trying to get her husbands attention for a long time before it gets to this point. Us men are really slow to pick up on these things until its too late. This kind of situation is never just a one sided problem, to blame the one who cheated. In fact a womans reason for being unfaithful is often their way to say now you can have a Biblical divorce because I have done this to set you free. If a womans self esteme is very low and they don't feel loved or are being abused verbally etc, then often this is the cause. I do not know if this is the reason, as only you can know for sure. By what you say there is a lot of stress and issues that can cause some serious wounds for both of you. You need some professional Christian help. Some pastors are equiped to help, but sadly many only see the unfaithful one as the one to blame, which is no solution. A good professional counselor can help, and help in areas a pastor may not be qualified. I have seem several Christians in you same situation and with time and the counseling of a good Christian professional counselor the couples were able to make the lasting changes required to make a marriage that has lasted. This takes a hard solid desire to change. Both of you, not just her must see the reasons this has happened. There is blame on both of your parts. I would call my pastor ask for a referal to a Christian Counselor. I would be very cautious as to who I shared this situation with. Often friends will take sides and then reconcilliation becomes even more hampered. Keep your temper under control, as temper desplayed can only drive one another further apart. The area that is so often overlooked is hardness of heart. This is the basic reason for this kind of situation. Someones heart turned hard, and the other one reacted with the same. Jesus made this clear in Matthew. I encourage you the pray and be in the Word. Just because you pray does not mean everything is going to turn out as you ask. Each of you are responsible to God, and neither of you can force the other to change. Pray God will have His will in your life. Let God work in her life. If you both can seek God and His will there is a good chance. I ould caution you to stay away from telling other women your hurt feelings, as this can turn out to out to a bad situation. Stay clean before the Lord, stay away from things that cause lust. You may well be a long time in getting her to respond, be patient. Try to do something that will send a message of I want to work this out. I can not over state the impotance of being in The Word and Church. Blessings. Justme |
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