What about an abusif husband?
If a wife has done everything she can think of to please her husband and continues to be verbally abused and insulted in front of their children. Is it OK to seek separation? 15year married! They went to councelling and husband was found to be verbally abusif, controlling, easily angered and very quick to blame everyone including brothers and sisters who want nothing to do with him. He says that God fixed him but continues to scream and insults.
Bible Answer: Interesting that they have already had counseling. Counseling should do more than diagnose the problem and label the person. It should help him to change his behavior.
You say the wife has done everything she can think of. Did the counselor have additional ideas for her, and for him?
I suppose it is fair to assume that we are speaking about Christian counseling here. It will be found that the scriptures do allow for temporary separation. However, we would be hope that the family will have the opportunity to practice positive replacement behaviors. he Bible contains many of those.