Subject: wrong and right to marry the person |
Bible Note: Hi, quomoh... I don't think the questioner asked about "destiny." I think they were asking about uxorial suitability. Actually, it is a very reasonable question. Henry Smith, a Puritan minister, wrote, "...the Holy Ghost gives thee two rules, godliness and fitness: godliness, because our spouse must be like Christ's spouse, that is, graced with gifts and embroidered with virtues, as if we did marry holiness herself, as God respecteth the heart, so we must respect the heart, because that must love, and not the face. It is not enough to be virtuous, but to be suitable, ...we see many times even the godly couples to jar when they are married, because there is some unfitness between them which makes odds... so they which are like strive not, but they which are unlike, as fire and water... therefore a godly man in our time thanked the Lord that He had not only given him a godly wife, but a fit wife: for he said not that she was the wisest, nor the holiest, nor the humblest, nor the modestest wife in the world, but the fittest wife in the world, which every man should think when the knot is tied, or else so often as he seeth a better, he will wish that his choice were to make again. As he did thank God for sending him the fit wife, so the unmarried should pray God to send them a fit wife: for if they be not like, they will not like." In Him, Doc |