Bible Question: What about if you are visualizing your wife that you have recently divorced due to her cheating on you and you are still actively trying to work things out with? We are putting God first this time and have been "hanging out" for a little over a month and have not even kissed yet.. |
Bible Answer: Steve V: I have taken the time to read all your notes, and the one question you have asked. I wanted to get as much of an understanding of you that you have said about yourself before responding to you. So my desire is to give you some advice that might be of use, perhaps. Your divorce and the situation of divorce happens to more than half of all Christian marriages. That is proberly no suprise to you. I am sure you and you ex wife are attempting to "putting God first this time". I seriously doubt you can do this on a continued basis with out professional Christian Counseling. Yes, it cost real money! Yes, it will take more time! Most couples say "we can't afford it." If you or her had a life threatening illness that demanded an opperation, no cost would be to much to save their life, right? Well think of saving your marriage, in the same light as that is exactally the same, that's what it amounts to. I do not mean a clergy trained in pastoral counseling. I mean a Degreed PHd in Psychology, who has a srtong Biblical back ground. I believe your wife having an affair is just a tip of the iceburg! I can assure you that neither of you were meeting each other's emotional and spiritual needs. This would not have gone this far if BOTH of you had not failed each other! Cheating sexually, on you marriage partner is always due to hardness of heart! I can say with complete certianty, without correcting and dealing with her and your past you are bound to repeat the same mistakes! After reading about your addictive patterns, of abusing durgs you have some very serious issues to deal with, just in your self. Repenting, changing your direction and renewing your ninds will take more hard work than most couples are willing to endure. You have a rough road ahead if you really want to "putGod first this time." I sincerely hope you do, but the odds are not in your favor! Many couples say they want to have God love them, but refuse to repent and learn to worship and adore our Lord Jesus Christ as marriage partners. I pray you follow this to completion, so God may bless you beyond what ever pain and suffering it will take you to rebuild your marriage. I can assure there are those of who know of where I speak, and would say AMEN! May God direct your steps. justme |