Bible Question:
I am a devout christian and I am in love with this guy but the thing is he isnt christian. We arent an actuall item but we are going out on dates my family thinks he is a nice guy, but they forbid me from marrying a christian which i understand, but this is the most perfect guy ever and he treats me so well, he is the nicest guy i have ever met, and he loves me even more than i love him. He used to be a christian but many deaths among his family shook his faith at a young age and now he doesnt believe in it anymore. He is going to church seeking spiritual guidance and trying to believe in it, this has been going for several months and quite honestly he told me that he wanted to believe so badly but he wasnt sure if he could. My family is torn, my dad supports me going out with him but my mom doesnt. However the main problem lies within my chritian friends they judge me and try to talk to me about him and the situation almost every minute of the day. I want to be with him but i dont know what to do and god isnt answering my prayers, i dont know waht to do please help me. Is it wrong what i am doing trying to make him believe? Or caring more about my friends opinions than his? Would i be wrong to make it official? Are my friends wrong for judging me? please help me i am so confused and the only person that has given me a good response isnt christian he doesnt believe in god. please help!!!!! thanks Confused And Sad |
Bible Answer: Dear Confused and Sad, Lead Pipe gave you a good answer. I too have seen lives destroyed by this mistake. Paul states a plain principle, which is to be followed: Do not be joined together with unbelievers. I do not want to tell you hard and difficult things, but the truth is, if I didn't, I wouldn't be loving you. If this fellow was "the one", the perfect guy for you, he would be a strong Christian man, capable of obeying Ephesians 5, "husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church." Without being a strong Christian, it is impossible to obey that scripture. And why should you settle for less? Paul reaffirms God's position on marrying, in 1 Cor 7:49, to marry "in the Lord". In Eph 5, God commands wives to submit to their husbands. Can you willingly enter into a relationship, intent on both obeying God, and obeying a man who does not obey God? This is a contradiction. My sister-in-law, a Christian, married an unbeliever. He's a really great guy, I like him a lot. He good with their kids. But the division in their household has caused all manner of pain to this woman. The children are growing up learning that it really doesn't matter how you believe in God, or even whether you do believe in God, because they watch both Mommy and Daddy. And she has found that it is impossible to actually be close to him, and for him to truly understand her, because "the natural man does not understand spiritual things." 1 Cor 2:14 But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised. There is one other point I wish to address. When you say, "God is not answering my prayers", this is a big red flag. There is only one reason why we sometimes may not receive His guidance, and that is when we don't want to hear Him, because we don't like what He is telling us. I wonder that perhaps you know very well what our Lord is saying to you. The One you need to please is God. There is way that seems right to man, but it ends in death. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don't lean on you own understanding. Acknowledge Him in your whole life, and He will show you what to do, and where to walk. God loves you, and is trying to spare you a lifetime of pain. I love you too, and I am praying for you! In Christ, Mark |