Bible Question:
hi My name is Ricardo and this is my question: ok...he is a lead up to it.... I have a friend(D), he has been a Christian for about 20 yrs. We have grown to know one another over the last 8yrs. On one day he(D) tried to plant a great kiss on me lips, i found this too much and pulled away immediately. This happened three years ago. We have remained close friends, he has since moved to another area. We keep intouch via phone and email. He(D) always whats to kiss me over the phone and email messages. I am Italian and my whole family and some friends, greet each other with a kiss on each cheek. It feels different, it is full of love, it does not feel at all lustfull, it does when it comes from him(D). now the question.... He(D) states it is in the bible. He(D) said look up kiss in the bible and it will answer you. I read the bible under "kiss"and can understand it as a holy kiss, "Greet one another with a holy kiss"in Romans16:16, 1 Corinthians16:20, 2 Corinthians13:12, 1 Thessalonians5:26, 1 Peter5:14 and other. I do not believe they had a smooch. I do not think they kissed more than a peck on each cheek. And i guess in some cases only one side kissed, as on a hand or forhead. A peck on the lips is full-on, if it is more than that, it becomes a smooch. He(D)seems gay, it seems to come across to strong. It felt invasive. Help me deal with this, i do enjoy his(D) friendship. I need proof in scripture that it is right or wrong. I have not been a Christian for long, can you go into this with more depth, this "kiss"? thanks regards Ricardo |
Bible Answer: Hi Ricardo, I believe that it is important to know if your friend greets all of his close friends in the same manner. If it is just you, then what you are feeling is probably right. If so, it is necessary to let him know that you are not comfortable with this type of greeting. We as Christians are all vulnerable to sin and that is why we must continually look to the Lord for guidance. We must love the sinner, but not the sin, as Christ does for us. If your friend truely loves you in a holy way, he will not want you to feel uncomfortable. I also grew up in an Italian family- some are cheek kissers, and some are smoochers- but they greet all close friends and family in the same way. Rom 16:16, Cor 16:20, 1Thess 5:26, Cor 13:12. Whatever the greeting style, it should be of love, not lust. |