Bible Question:
sometime we have to use tough Love, How do you talk to a son 41 that is living in my house we care for him got him out of Jail for matters that we think he needs our Love, but he really takes over like we don't have to tell him or go with him Places. Give me some of your Advice from you Bb Scholars.How to deal with him that will be right insight of God. thanks. Mae64 |
Bible Answer: Greetings Mae64, Boy, does your senario sound familar! When you care for your son as you are doing you are enabling him to have a sinful life. In a commentary on 2Pet 3:11 Matthew Henry’s Commentary says "Never expect to be found at that day of God in peace, if you are lazy and idle in this your day, in which we must finish the work that is given us to do. It is only the diligent Christian who will be the happy Christian in the day of the Lord. Our Lord will suddenly come to us, or shortly call us to him; and would you have him find you idle?’’ Remember there is a curse denounced against him who does the work of the Lord negligently. You said your son is 41 and I am assuming that he is not mentally challenged. I think that tough love needs to be practiced here. If you continue to provide for him, he will continue to use you. He is a grown man and, although it was a hard lesson for me to learn with my sons, they are adults and we need to let them be accountable for their actions. If we continue to get them out of trouble they will not "learn their lessons" and continue to make the same mistakes. njenkins mentioned Eli's sons in the previous answer. Eli was a lax father who had no control over his two sons. Phinehas and Hophni took meat from sacrificial animals before they were dedicated to God. They also “lay with the women that assembled at the door of the tabernacle” (1 Sam. 2:22). God pronounced judgment on Eli because of his failure to discipline his sons.(Nelson’s new illustrated Bible dictionary). Hope this helps. prayon |