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1 | Am I still Married "in God's eyes"? | NT general Archive 1 | ChristianMom123 | 189658 | ||
Am I still "Married" in Gods eyes? I was married to what I believed was a Christian Man. We had hard times, he had a bad temper and was extremely controlling. After 2 children and 5 years of marriage, he ended it. He basically drug me through, kicking and screaming. He was NOT cheating and neither was I. I didn't feel we had a scriptual divorce, so I was willing to separate while we "worked" on it, but he just wanted a divorce and be done with it. And he got it! Texas, you can do that! So, now, It's been a year and a 1/2 since he left and about 5 months since final divorce and I don't know how to feel. I have NO husband, he's not here, he doesn't want to be here, but we didn't have a scriptual divorce. So am I still married to him in Gods eyes? Am I still "bound" to him? I have no evidence or even possibilities that he is with or has been with anyone else. He still attends his church Sundays and Wed, and volunteers at the Church functions, he is the "perfect little christian" to everyone else. So what am I to do, as a Christian Woman. Wait for him to go have sex with someone, then I'm no longer "bound" to him? That may NEVER happen. I have not dated or seen anyone, of course. I am focusing on the kids and my church and God. Letting him guide me, but I just feel so lost... like I'm in limbo or something. I don't know if I am able "as a Christian Woman" to let the marriage bond go... And since "God joined us together" in marriage, doesn't HE have to release us... I'm not feeling that... is it just me... or what? What should I do.... |
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2 | Am I still Married "in God's eyes"? | NT general Archive 1 | Hank | 189673 | ||
ChristianMom123 - Your post ends with the question, "What should I do?" ..... Even though there is little doubt that a number of registrants and readers of his Forum emphathize with your situation and would like to help, the reality is that there are only three things that members of this Forum can do for you. The first is to pray for you and your family. The second is to urge you to seek counsel from your pastor or other qualifed Christian counselor. The third is to attempt to diagnose your situation on this web site and give you a lot of confusing and conflicting advice, without having ever met you or your estranged husband, and knowing absolutely nothing about your situation except the meager sketch you gave in your question. ....... I BELIEVE that your post will indeed evoke the prayers of many Christian readers of these pages. I RECOMMEND that you seek personal counsel in your church or community. And I strong URGE you not to seek resolution of your complex problem on this or any other web site. ...... We are a Forum dedicated to the study of the Bible, but we are not set up to give specific, personal, one-on-one counsel. On any public forum you are likely to get all kinds of advice, some of it -- maybe most of it -- bad. And bad advice is worse than no advice at all! .... So, please, seek help from qualified folks in your community. Don't let this thing drag on. For your sake, the man's sake, and above all, your children's sake, seek local help. And I'll be praying for you and feel sure others on the Forum will too. God be with you. --Hank | ||||||
3 | Am I still Married "in God's eyes"? | NT general Archive 1 | ChristianMom123 | 189700 | ||
I want to make it understood, that I am asking OTHERS opinions backed by scripture and reason... on how you yourself would see yourself in my position - What YOU would do??? 1. We are both believers in Jesus Christ, our savior, saved by Grace. But we both believe in a little different doctrine, I was always tolerant of his beliefs and he was not of mine... he wanted me to believe his way or he threatened divorce... to the point of burning all my Bible study materials in the fireplace 2. He was physically and emotionally abusive to me and my oldest daughter - not his daughter .......Mostly emotional, several times physical with me, once with my daughter, which is when I left.... no sexual abuse 3. He has major explosive anger and depression problems, showing he could not in his brain put any blame on his self. Psychologicals recommended he needed to be on antidepressants and in Psychotherapy 4. I was willing to separate till he got the help he needed...... I and the kids had to be out of the house for safety sake, but since he didn't believe he needed any help and it was all my fault, he would not get any help and divorced me. 5. I begged and pleaded with him to not go through with the divorce. I was willing to do whatever it took, aside from living with him while he was abusive .....which I don't believe God would want me to put myself or kids in harm, but He actually believes God told him to do this, that it was the right thing to do, to put me away. He feels that because I didn't believe completely his way or wouldn't do 100 percent of what he told me to do, ...I wouldn't be his wife... and ...I am an unsaved unbeliever!.. and that is how he justifies what he has done... SoOOO... knowing this... if you were me, what do you think the Bible teaches and what would YOU do? |
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4 | Am I still Married "in God's eyes"? | NT general Archive 1 | BradK | 189704 | ||
Dear ChristianMom123, I too can empathize with your situation. I would echo brother Hank's honest and pointed advice. I can and will lift you up in prayer, but anything beyond that is above the capabilities and boundaries of this Forum. Scripturally, read, meditiate and pray on 1 Cor. 7 and 13. The advice there amply applies to your situation. Please seek local, competant, Christian advice/counsel from either your Pastor, qualified Elder or other mature believer. In love, none of us is you and we can't and shouldn't speak for you! I/We do not know the specifics of your situation, nor can we rightfully dispense counsel. Speaking the Truth in Love, BradK |
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