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1 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | Makarios | 7134 | ||
Hello again JVH.. As you know, I am a single man and 25 years old.. I have been told by many a church leader and pastor that 'dating is not of the Bible!'.. I've also read that book, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Josh Harris. Maybe our Lord wants me to enjoy singleness for the rest of my life, who knows? But I find it hard and a difficult thing for the church to address when confronted with the idea of single people dating. I'm a decent looking guy and I make friends very easily. The Lord has put a desire in my heart to have companionship with a woman, much like Jeremiah (Jer. 16:2). However, I have chosen to follow God with all my heart and to keep the utmost purity in all my life! To this day, I am a living success story of purity, fleeing from temptation (much like Joseph) several times! But the Lord has set a hedge around me, protecting me from all the arrows of lust and fornication. Being single at 25, I do not think that dating is entirely wrong, but I feel that a sense of 'courtship' could be warranted where it involves the parents and the families of both the man and the woman. Christianity Today recently came out with an article that said that most churches really don't know how to meet the needs of singles. Its not that we are somehow 'lacking' or 'not complete' in any way since we haven't found a mate. What we really need is prayer and to follow God where He leads us. I, as a single young man, need this the most. There is another book called "I Gave Dating a Chance" by Jeramy Clark who makes a valid argument for Christian dating. I've read this also and recommend it to those who would like a 'balanced' view between extremes. Until I meet that Godly woman who will spur me on in my faith (and I hers), I will continue to be unhindered by the things of this world as I set out to complete my Master's work in my life.Thanks for the discussion, JVH, and I hope that I can continue to encourage you also. :) | ||||||
2 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | kalos | 7157 | ||
Nolan: Thanks for a very good, very heartfelt reply. I have received other good replies to this question, but, if I'm not mistaken, yours is the one that best addresses the question as I asked it. (Disclaimer: the following is MY subjective answer. I do not present it as Bible doctrine or church dogma. "Every person has a right to his own opinion; but no person has the right to be wrong in his facts." The following is not a discussion of bare facts, but of a modern social custom. I am not taking a rigid stand, merely expressing my opinion, which I have labeled as opinion.) Just for the record, I didn't mean to imply that I either agreed or disagreed with every last word of Harris's book. Neither am I saying that you said I implied that. The issue of whether churches are equipped to deal with or instruct singles regarding dating is another matter entirely, though one that is related to the question at hand. And I tend to agree with your assessment of the churches regarding singles. You mention an author "who makes a valid argument for Christian dating." I haven't a thing against Christian dating according to Christian principles. What I seriously question is the entire dating culture and customs as the world understands and practices them, especially the world's questionable practice (from the biblical viewpoint) of an excessive number of serial or multiple dating partners. Is this REALLY proper or adequate preparation for "Christian" marriage? I am not entirely against dating. But I seriously question the suitability for Christians of the dating "game" as played by the world. I don't believe God called us to play shopping games with relationships. For thousands of years people met, married, raised children, and arguably fared no better and no worse for the lack of the custom of dating -- a VERY, VERY recent custom in the history of mankind. |
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3 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | Makarios | 7167 | ||
You're welcome JVH0212! I appreciated your answer to my note, and I pray that we could encourage one another as brothers who are single in Jesus Christ! Your assessment of the modern day dating scene is absolutely correct! The lewd and wild living filled with all kinds of fornication and sexual misconduct is a terrible blunt to society and a disgraceful thing to endure as a single person! I'm sure that your soul is tortured and tormented day and night as mine is by all the saturation of sexual misconduct in present day society. The 'dating scene' or society's idea of dating is completely and totally from satan himself, indulging in every sinful pleasure. Society has become so filled with sinful gluttony through dating that it is almost unheard of not to think of dating and cringe. I believe that society's answer to dating means death to our individual spirits and would be cause for the eviction of the Holy Spirit that should dwell inside of us and rule us rather than these passing sinful passions.When I think of Christians dating, I think more of a 'courtship' that involves both families of the couple. I think of an honest, sincere, and wholesome 'getting to know you' that should take place.. When I think of dating, I see it as something that could be wonderful and honoring our Lord and Savior at the same time by honoring our 'prospective' female friends by letting their parents and families know how we feel! This is something that is patient and kind, not something that should be rushed. And only with this 'gentle' premise can we build a foundation or friendship with a fellow sister in Christ that not only is based on Christ (and He is the center) but one of emotional support also. And in this way, we can gain the trust of the lady and also her family, so that I may also be included in her family as well- and her in mine! And this demands the highest purity, since we as Christians live according to the Spirit! And in this way, we can live lives with our mates that would be filled with love, contentment, and peace in Christ Jesus our Lord. This is my 'vision' of what a courtship could be. :) | ||||||
4 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | Minister | 7275 | ||
As a single Bretheren you must have a constant prayer and fasting life as a lifestyle. Extremely Consistantly and faithfully in communion with the Father at all times. Please take heed if you are planning on living a single life or if you are single and looking for a help meet "patiently". Do not have mercy on the flesh because flesh surely do not have mercy on you. If you have any more question please contact me at ministerhudson@hotmail.com I truly, truly encourage you with what you are doing. Meditate on James 1:10-16, Galation 5, and Ephesians 2, and 1John the epistle. Walk in the Spirit and in total consecration and keep your cross with and crucify the flesh and be absolutly sure that the lusts, deeds, dispositions, affections, are dead because they should not be there at all. Satan only comes at your lowest point. |
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5 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | Makarios | 7279 | ||
Thank you Minister! I will consult you at your e-mail address for special needs, prayers, and things of that nature. Your uplifting and biblical guidance towards holiness is much appreciated, my friend! Thank you, and I look forward to communicating more with you on the Forum! | ||||||
6 | Anything wrong with dating? | Bible general Archive 1 | Minister | 7284 | ||
Praise the LORD! Amen! | ||||||