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1 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | EdB | 39459 | ||
This could turn into she said you said. Let me make a suggestion. The next time the church, your family and you are all together, why don't you go up to your mother in law and say I don't recall ever saying those things, but since your sure I did I want to apologize to you right here and now and let us restore the relationship. Then bite your tongue and apologize making a promise that you will do everything possible never to show her or your father in law any disrespect. That will force her to either end her tirade about you or make herself look foolish. Sure it will be humbling, sure it is unjust, sure your right and she is wrong. But once again think of David and King Saul. David was absolutely right Saul was seeking unjustly to kill him but David gave him honor and God saw that David’s action did not go unnoticed. David was vindicated by the hand of God! As you will be if you humble yourself to make peace, because God has promised to lift up those that humble themselves in His sight. I pray you find peace and happiness, with just a year of marriage you many obstacles to get past, God will be with you if you seek Him. Make peace! EdB |
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2 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39493 | ||
If I did that it would give her another reason to do it again. As far as a "she said you said", my husband (her own son) has been there through all of this and he, too knows the truth. When he came forth and said that her story was incorrect, she said he was brainwashed (by me). It is difficult for me to believe that "honoring your father and mother" means to permit them to do and/or say whatever they want (as hurtful as it may be) in turn for my husband and I to apologize every time. This is our first year of marriage and we are setting boundaries - we don't want to advocate this type of behavior and provide a breeding ground for it to happen again and again. We have humbled ourselves many times by tolerating their hateful phone calls and interactions as we were trying to make peace with them by resolving this. God does know where our hearts are. Thank you for your advice and suggestions. | ||||||
3 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | EdB | 39497 | ||
think about it would have happened if David said I have to set boundaries, Saul can't do this to me! You asked how to honor a lying parent, I think I told you how. You said if you do that then she will just keep on doing it. Have you taken God out of the equation? If you humble yourself yes she may do it again but I assure you it does not go unnoticed by God. Who do you think is better able to settle this you, your husband or God? Make up your mind you have a choice. You can either honor God and let him vindicate you or you can act in some fashion and try to handle yourself. if you want to handle it yourself okay I can't say I wouldn't be tempted to try, though I hope I wouldn't. However if you want to honor God by honoring your parents then consider what I said and let God seek revenge. God bless you and your whole family and I pray God's peace in this situation. EdB |
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4 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | searchingfortruth29 | 39509 | ||
You are asking me if I have taken God out of the equation? No . . . I wouldn't still be on this website trying to find helpful answers to my questions if God wasn't in the question. Obviously, God is the best candidate to settle this. SETTING BOUNDARIES IS A PART OF LIFE EVEN IF YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN. We honor God. We have no desire to seek revenge (where ever you got that from?) and pray every day that He will lead us in this situation. I think I have gained everything I can from your replies (as it appears you are becoming aggitated). |
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5 | How do you "honor" lying parents? | Bible general Archive 1 | EdB | 39568 | ||
I apologize for any appearance of aggitation, there is none here. I guess I wonder when people ask questions seeking answers but have already settled in their minds what course of action they are going to take. I wonder why bother? God said honor you parents your can either do that or disobey God. God said be a peace maker you can do that or disobey God. Are you getting a raw deal? Yes you are! Nonetheless those other two commands stand. Be a peacemaker, eat your pride, reach out to your Mother in Law and make peace one day you may decide it was a good idea. Do not let this isolate you or your husband from the family believe me one day you may need their support. I thought I was an island unto myself right up until the day in Jan of 1976 a 5 in the morning when my wife woke me and said the house is on fire. We rushed our 2 kids through the flames, out to stand in knee deep snow and watched everything we own burn to the ground. Without friends, family and the church I think I would probably still be standing there. I never appreciated family so much as I did in that period of my life. Blessings to you EdB |
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